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Post by griffin on May 30, 2021 18:58:18 GMT
Hi
I'm a 41 year old male from the Midlands. I look after myself, I'm silgle, have 3 kids and have always been straight.
However, for a while now I can't stop fantasising about doing stuff with guys. I spend all day thinking about enjoying sucking cock and pleasing guys but when I cum I feel shame. Then 10mins later I'm fantasising how it would feel to have a guy finish in my mouth again.
Should I carry on ignoring the feelings or act them out? I'm not getting any younger and think I'd love it.
Sorry for being blunt but wanted an honest opinion. Thanks xxxxxxxx
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Post by Piltover on Jun 2, 2021 12:42:46 GMT
Hi there griffin, Thanks so much for your post to the forums. I'm a gay man who came out quite early in life so while I haven't experienced your exact circumstances, I do know what it's like to have fantasies about other men, and also not know whether I should act on them or not. Though this doesn't mean you're alone in your circumstances, far from it! Lots of people begin to acknowledge feelings of same sex attraction later in life, probably a lot more than you think. While I'm not here to tell you what to do, I can totally understand that you feel conflicted at the moment about acting on your feelings or not. It's perfectly natural to feel a bit tentative about exploring a new part of your sexuality for the first time, but age shouldn't be an inhibiting factor. We should all be free to take steps to understand our own sexual identity at whatever time feels right for us. You've said your single, so there's currently no other romantic relationship, so maybe this could be a good time to talk to someone about your sexual identity and commit some energy to understanding yourself better? Below I'm going to link to some support services that I think might help. Sometimes, speaking to someone on the phone who really gets what you're going through can be a great way to sort through our thoughts and feelings. I'd recommend calling Switchboard, the LGBTQ+ helpline. It's staffed by LGBTQ+ volunteers and is there to answer any questions you have about sex, sexuality, and beyond! You can call them on 0300 330 0630 or, if you'd rather email, chris@switchboard.lgbt, and they've even got webchat on their website switchboard.lgbt/LGBT Foundation is also a great LGBTQ+ charity with a helpline. They would also be glad to take your call on 0345 3 30 30 30. If you've got any more questions then please feel free to post again, and do let us know how you're getting on! Best, J |
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Post by bigbadbazza on Jul 11, 2021 8:42:12 GMT
Hi I'm a 41 year old male from the Midlands. I look after myself, I'm silgle, have 3 kids and have always been straight. However, for a while now I can't stop fantasising about doing stuff with guys. I spend all day thinking about enjoying sucking cock and pleasing guys but when I cum I feel shame. Then 10mins later I'm fantasising how it would feel to have a guy finish in my mouth again. Should I carry on ignoring the feelings or act them out? I'm not getting any younger and think I'd love it. Sorry for being blunt but wanted an honest opinion. Thanks xxxxxxxx Hi Griffin, I understand where your coming from I to fantasies about being with another guy as a taker I also fantasies about giving them a BJ have yet to fulfill that desire, I started with a dildo and as nice as it was I still fantasies about being with a guy i have only ever been with one guy and that was a bit of a disappointment as he couldn't perform when it came to F...ing me, thing is I fully intended to go out and find myself a guy to get a better understanding around the time covid came upon use 😌 so that's kind of put a Cork in the works for the time being, the guilty feeling i have too sometimes but I'm a full believe if you fantasies about something enough you should in some manner experience how it feels ie being with another male fisticaly and sexualy I've dun the fiscal bit and was surprisingly relaxed he blow me wile I fingerd him and I took to it like fish to water and I didn't feel one oz of regret or shame. The thing is untill your partisate your never truly understand how it truly makes you feel about yourself yes at fist your have doubts thats natural but if you keep on fantasising about it even after participating you need to try it again. I've never been married found out a few years back most people thought I was gay because I'm effeminate, I was born with klinefelter's syndrome 47xxy witch puts me in the intersexed category I've also been a cross dresser sins I was 13 and over the years I've been dyexnosed with gender dysphoria and in reasent years have felt a desire to be with another guy sexualy my preference is to be the taker ie ill give a BJ and happily have them making love to me as if I was a female problem is finding a guy that enjoys a guy that likes to dress as female because I'd like to take on that roll play it sertanly would be a buzz. |
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