Bi-curious (?) wife, help the helper
Jun 28, 2022 9:28:32 GMT
Post by spaceme on Jun 28, 2022 9:28:32 GMT
hi all
First post here so be gentle
My wife and I have been married almost 20 years with a child and are madly in love with a fantastic sex life (yippie).
I have often wondered about her sexuality, she has always spoken about going to a strip club (although she was clear seeing men strip is disgusting to her). When her libido is high I notice her checking out woman and she once told me "you have these romantic feelings for your best friend as a teenager but you fuck lots of men to get it out your system". A few months ago we went to a strip club together for the first time and she had a private dance, afterwards it was sexually intense like something had been unblocked in her.
The obvious thing to do here is to talk to her about it but whenever I try I get stonewalled with denials, for example the other week I told her I would be happy if our marriage opened so as to allow her to see other woman as long as she was honest (this was sincere) but was told me this was ridiculous and how would I like to sleep with a man (I am hetro but strongly believe in others right to define themselves as they want).
I have had bisexual girlfriends in the past and I have such admiration for people who are able to be true to themselves. All of this is not only from a fantasy perspective - I have no expectations of threesome or even being there if/when she is with a woman.
Recently my wife has made a friend at work (roughly same age, married with children) who is fairly open about having desires for woman as well as men and I have noticed a change in my wife who has far more sexual energy both in and out the bedroom.
My questions: is there anything more I can do to help my wife come to terms with her desires?
Also, for anyone who suppressed / denied for any period of time, does it scan true that having found someone who is also bi-sexual helps validate your desires and leading to a change in how you act towards sex with your long term partner?
Peace, love and thanks (and apologies if anything I have written above causes, unintentional, offence).
First post here so be gentle
My wife and I have been married almost 20 years with a child and are madly in love with a fantastic sex life (yippie).
I have often wondered about her sexuality, she has always spoken about going to a strip club (although she was clear seeing men strip is disgusting to her). When her libido is high I notice her checking out woman and she once told me "you have these romantic feelings for your best friend as a teenager but you fuck lots of men to get it out your system". A few months ago we went to a strip club together for the first time and she had a private dance, afterwards it was sexually intense like something had been unblocked in her.
The obvious thing to do here is to talk to her about it but whenever I try I get stonewalled with denials, for example the other week I told her I would be happy if our marriage opened so as to allow her to see other woman as long as she was honest (this was sincere) but was told me this was ridiculous and how would I like to sleep with a man (I am hetro but strongly believe in others right to define themselves as they want).
I have had bisexual girlfriends in the past and I have such admiration for people who are able to be true to themselves. All of this is not only from a fantasy perspective - I have no expectations of threesome or even being there if/when she is with a woman.
Recently my wife has made a friend at work (roughly same age, married with children) who is fairly open about having desires for woman as well as men and I have noticed a change in my wife who has far more sexual energy both in and out the bedroom.
My questions: is there anything more I can do to help my wife come to terms with her desires?
Also, for anyone who suppressed / denied for any period of time, does it scan true that having found someone who is also bi-sexual helps validate your desires and leading to a change in how you act towards sex with your long term partner?
Peace, love and thanks (and apologies if anything I have written above causes, unintentional, offence).