Negotiating issues from previous relationships

Hi thatbiguy,

Thanks for posting on the forum. You've mentioned that you're beginning to embrace your bisexuality so I'm glad that you're on that path of self-acceptance and becoming more comfortable in your own skin.

It can always be difficult when both parties in a relationship have differing expectations when it comes to sex. Sex is something that is incredibly personal and everyone has their own opinions on it. An important aspect of sex is the communication and trust between the partners. It sounds like you've had that idea of having the conversation with your wife already, but it sounds like she's been through a lot and it's understandable that she may be hesitant about having anal sex again. If she would like to talk to someone about what happened to her in the past, we would suggest that she looks at the following website:  sexualabusesupport.campaign.gov.uk/#get_confidential_support

Having the communication is the most important thing and everyone has to be on the same page when it comes to sex. These conversations normally take time and are often a work in progress. By being honest with each other and having a shared understanding, hopefully you can both come to an arrangement that works for both parties. One potential starting point could be suggesting the use of anal toys or light anal foreplay etc if she is open to the idea, and then seeing how it goes from there.

I hope that some of the above is helpful and if you want to keep chatting and have more questions then please do keep posting here.

Stolz