Scared of sex and physical contact

Hi cobi,

Thanks for posting into the forum. Firstly, I'm really really sorry that you've been through that - I can't imagine how difficult it must have been. I wanted to let you know that nothing that you've mentioned is your fault.

You've mentioned about having some counselling towards the end of 2019 to address the rape and I'm glad that you found this helpful. I'm not sure which service you accessed for counselling but there's a great charity called Survivors UK which specifically supports men who have been the victims of sexual assault and rape. They have 1 to 1 chat sessions with a trained support worker - this might be something that may of help if you would like to continue having support. They can then signpost on you onwards if needed. Here's the link: www.survivorsuk.org/ or you can message them via online chat/text between Monday to Sunday 12pm to 8pm.

Unfortunately the pandemic did mean that a lot of us were disconnected from each other and we weren't able to have the contact that we were previously used to. Loneliness is a real issue and is sadly something that isn't talked about as much as it should. I think it's even harder when you identify as LGBTQ+. Have you spoken to your GP about how you've been feeling recently? They may be able to provide support or signpost you to resources that might be helpful if you think you're struggling with your mood or anxiety.  Our website also has some links and guides that might be helpful, check them out: www.lgbthero.org.uk/Pages/Category/depression

The most important thing is that you take things in your own time and at your own pace. It might be helpful to speak to someone who can go through this if that's helpful for you. Switchboard are an amazing helpline that you can call and talk through things in your own time. You can contact them here: switchboard.lgbt/

I hope you can get support and do let us know how you get on.

Best,
S