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But it has certainly brought me a degree of trouble that I didn't have before. And I'm certainly still not fully open or carefree. It's hard to know if in the longrun it's been, or will turn out to be, better for my life that I've been open. Maybe my life would have been better if I had been more secretive and less open.
I am still not fully out - I had a difficult experience of coming out several years ago, which then effectively sent me back into the closet in many ways. It's something I am working on with a therapist, but I think it is important to recognise that coming out can still be really challenging and difficult and people may have their own reasons for not doing it. It's a valid choice to not come out, or to do so very selectively.
Thank you all so much for sharing! I came out 18 years ago now. I was so scared that I gave my parents a letter rather than talk to them face to face. It was the best way for me to get my feelings across clearly, and honestly I think I'd do the same thing now!
Sadly my cousin took away my right to come out. She found out and told my family which ended up badly. But actually it was a relief cause I didn't have to "act straight" after that and gave me the opportunity to find my own chosen family!
I'm out as bisexual to most of my friends, and some of my family. The scariest start to coming out was when I sat down my roommates, some of my best friends, and awkwardly told them-- I'm bi! I had been working up the courage for months, and they responded really well.
Some of my other friends found out when they saw I was swiping on a dating app and there were girls on there. We had a good laugh, and they were like "oooh she's cute!" I also drunk-texted my sister that I was bi, and she later told me "before you texted me that night, nothing in the world made sense to me. How could you have been straight when you're the gayest person I know???" So funny.
Post by orangeyounglink on Oct 12, 2022 14:39:07 GMT
Really lovely to hear everyone's stories. Coming out has been a long road for me! I learn new things about myself all the time, and I've come out many times with different labels since my first coming out at 16. I'm very comfortable where I am now as a queer transmasc person, but I've learned to thing of coming out as more of a journey and not so much a destination. 🙂