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Post by carly on Oct 15, 2022 5:18:36 GMT
Hi,
I am new here but wish to chat and share experiences as for years i have been confused about my sexuality and now i should find out.
Am going through a separation from my wife after 26 years (no children) and i wish now to explore if i am bi sexual for sure as for years i have feelings that have got stronger daily and now to the point i cannot fight it any longer and explore it.
I would so much like to talk to anyone who can share their views with me and help guide me with suggestions and advice how to start my opening up ?
With warm regards
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Post by Piltover on Oct 17, 2022 10:08:48 GMT
Hi there Carly, Thanks for your post and welcome to the forums I hear that you're looking to explore your sexuality after a long period of being in a relationship with your wife. You might be feeling a bit lonely and isolated right now, but I'd say that what you're going through is actually really common. Lots of people who've been in long term relationships find themselves wanting to understand their sexuality better when the relationship ends, and it happens to people who've been married for 3, 4, or 5 decades. With that said, it's understandable to not know exactly where to start. It sounds like you've already done some thinking about how you feel and what you want to do, which is great. From here there are lots of ways you can start engaging with the community, and exploring your sexuality, but there is no one size fits all solution. Every person is an individual and it's all about what you feel comfortable with and how you'd like to proceed. Below I'm going to make some suggestions for resources you can read, places you can talk to, and organisations / groups where you can make connections. Take a look and see which ones sound good to you: - For starters, if you'd like to chat to someone LGBTQ+ about how you're feeling, then I can't recommend Switchboard highly enough. It's the UK's oldest LGBTQ+ helpline and is staffed by amazing lesbian, gay, bi, and trans volunteers who will gladly have a talk with you about where you find yourself. You can call them on 0300 330 0630, or webchat here: switchboard.lgbt/. - Another great line to call is LGBT Foundation: 0345 3 30 30 30 - You say you're looking to 'open up' which I presume means talk about how you're feeling. In which case have you considered talking to a counsellor or therapist? There are some great LGBTQ+ services out there which could provide a safe space for you to chat with someone in confidence: Gay men's therapy (for gay, bi and trans men, and those who are questioning) www.gaymenstherapy.org.uk/also elop (you need to call or email the details on this page) www.elop.org/- Another way to move forward could be to start interacting with the community a little. You don't say where you're based, but there are loads of meetups and groups across the country. It's more complicated than this but I'd divide them into two main camps: social meetups and clubs, and then drop-ins and support services from charities and other organisations. For social meetups I'd recommend going on meetup.com and having a browse. There's a lot going on, especially in urban areas. As for charities, LGBT Foundation, London Friend, and Metro all have drop-in services. Take a look around and see if any of them match what you're looking for. I hope that some of the above are what you're looking for. If not then feel free to post again! And remember that there is a whole community of people out here who are willing to help, don't be afraid to reach out to us, or another service if you're looking for answers, or just a kind word! Pilover x
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