Sex is..hard

Hi Lexi

Thanks for sharing this with us. You have been with your partner for a long time, I hope they will trust you and take what you are saying well. You will know the best way to approach and communicate with them. I'm pleased that you feel you can address this, as you should not be doing anything sexually that makes you unhappy or uncomfortable.

You said in a previous post that you are demi, so I am assuming you have a good understanding of asexuality. You could be asexual but still desire your partner, but not enjoy sex. Like any sexuality, a sexuality is nuanced and can look different for everyone. I have a video here about asexuality here you may like.

A quick google shows lots of results about anxiety durning sex and how to cure it, but I think you need to think about if you want to 'cure it'. Does sex feel like something you really want to do but anxiety is a barrier, or do you not want to have sex? Either is totally fine! There is nothing wrong with you, and it's really important that you are in control of what does or does not happen to your body. 

You can find more info and advice via Brook or for LGBT specific advice HERE

Avo