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Post by shinnix on Dec 10, 2022 13:39:13 GMT
Hi, I’m a woman, 25yrs old and I’ve been questioning my sexual orientation a lot lately. To be honest I don’t have much experience with neither men nor women, I did had flirts with men, some serious ones but I haven’t sexually jumped in. I think I tried to avoid any attractiveness towards women but I’m not sure. I’m from a very religious background so I used to feel guilty anytime I would even start to think about it. But about 5 years ago I was in a very dark place and when I started to feel better I promised myself I would do anything to keep getting better, I’ve worked on myself and I’ve matured a lot. A few weeks ago I finally acknowledged that I could be bi, as if it was fate I got an assignment on the 🏳️🌈 community to do for school the same week. During my research I related to a lot of things, but I even got more questions. I don’t even know how to label myself, bi or pansexual ? I’ve done further researches on it but I still don’t understand it fully. I also don’t really know where to start if that makes sense  I guess I’m just looking for advices/answer or simply someone in the same situation |
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Post by sow on Dec 10, 2022 16:15:26 GMT
Hey there! Thank you for posting on this forum! It sounds like you are going through an important period of self-discovery. First of all exploring your sexuality can be a stressful time, and yet it can also be an exciting opportunity. It is important to remember you are not alone in this. I am sure there are plenty on here who are going through the same process. I also grew up in a religious household and went to Catholic school. During this time I felt grossed out by the idea of being sexually attracted to men. Even when I started to experiment with sexual experiences, I felt guilty. It took me a while to work on myself. It is important to remind myself that this is a continuous process. It sounds like you have become more confident during this period- and have aknowledged you could be bisexual- this is a big step on your personal journey. Sometimes labels like bi and pansexual can help us understand who we are attracted to. BUT they do not always reflect how we feel /identify at all times. It sounds like you are most drawn to bisexual and pansexual. If you want to learn further about labels like bi and pansexual, stonewall have a gathered a list of sexualities: List of termsIf you want to speak to more people switchboard have a chatline where you can speak to an advisor trained in LGBTQI+ issues: SwitchboardI hope this was helpful. |
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Post by james on Dec 14, 2022 11:33:15 GMT
Hi,
I'm very much in a similar situation to you in that for some time now I've began to feel uncertain.
As I've already mentioned a few years ago I fell in love with a women who really just caught my eye and developed a big crush her, which I kept secret from everyone.
Then about a few years ago they announced that they transgender and had began transitioning from female to male. At first I was confused and uncertain about this but after seeing them after completing their transitioning I began to realise something:
Even though they had transitioned from female-to-male I still felt attracted to them. They were still beautiful and enthralling.
To be frank it was an experiance that I have never had before and it stired up such intense curiousity for me.
I've had feelings for women before and been attracted to them but I've never had feelings like this when looking at a man, especially a transgender man.
And like you I've been pretty certain that I have 'something' inside me that makes me reason that I'm gay but not entirely sure.
The fact that I'm attracted to this tranistioned man might make be bisexual because they are male, but at the same time the fact I was attracted to them both BEFORE as a woman and AFTER as a man almost equally, with no real distinction between the two, makes me wonder if I could be Pansexual, because I like them regardless of being formaly female or transitioned into male. Seriously, when I compare the two images of them my mind tells me that there's no differnece, as if one image as been imposed on top of another.
To be honest, I'm still trying to work this out.
But my advice would be this: Research.
Do as much research as you can into both bisexualilty and Pansexuality and make notes about what you understand, in particular pay attention to what aspects you can RELATE to and EMPATHSIS with. Whilst reading material and watching videos on Youtube etc there have been times when I thought "That's what I think too!" or "I understand that completley!".
Take your time and consider the source material carefully But I, personally, have found a lot of aspects in these that I can think I can identitfy with,and strangley enough I'm actually enjoying it, exploring this new side of my being.
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