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Post by 90schild on Dec 13, 2022 21:00:51 GMT
Just after general advice hopefully others can shed some light on things as to how to approach people within the community respectfully and tastfully.
I ask from a POV that I'm currently exploring my sexuality and don't want to be in a situation where I feel pressured or taken advantage off by others, to an extent the only real way you'll fully grasp your sexuality and or sexual preferences is to become physically involved with others or at least that's how I see it.
What are the best ways to do this as in meet genuine people and to do so safely as I'd would have to build up some level of trust with a person IE apps, clubs, social events?
Please excuse any gibberish I'm coming if the back of a long shift today lol
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Post by avocado on Dec 15, 2022 1:42:00 GMT
Hi 90sChild I am so pleased that your looking to explore your sexuality safely. When we first come out it's a really vulnerable time and I think you have done a smart thing by defining what you are looking for (genuine people you can build up trust with). I don't know where you live so I can't suggest any IRL events and clubs. If you want to let us know then I can do my best. - You could check out THIS article about dating apps.
- How to meet people article
- Another great article from LGBT Foundation
If you are in a club or pub and something happens on a date or someone you are talking to feels creepy you can go to the bar and ask for Angela, this is a signal to the staff, who will help you get out of that situation. Most pubs and clubs are part of the scheme. There is more info here, its says London but it's all over the country. Think of of others ways to stay safe like always telling friends or family were you are going and letting them know you are home safe. If you are concerned about an interaction you have had with someone please reach out to someone you know or talk to organisations like us or Switchboard. I hope this helps and remember lots of people find it challenging meeting new people no matter our sexuality.
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Post by 90schild on Dec 15, 2022 11:07:45 GMT
Hi 90sChild I am so pleased that your looking to explore your sexuality safely. When we first come out it's a really vulnerable time and I think you have done a smart thing by defining what you are looking for (genuine people you can build up trust with). I don't know where you live so I can't suggest any IRL events and clubs. If you want to let us know then I can do my best. - You could check out THIS article about dating apps.
- How to meet people article
- Another great article from LGBT Foundation
If you are in a club or pub and something happens on a date or someone you are talking to feels creepy you can go to the bar and ask for Angela, this is a signal to the staff, who will help you get out of that situation. Most pubs and clubs are part of the scheme. There is more info here, its says London but it's all over the country. Think of of others ways to stay safe like always telling friends or family were you are going and letting them know you are home safe. If you are concerned about an interaction you have had with someone please reach out to someone you know or talk to organisations like us or Switchboard. I hope this helps and remember lots of people find it challenging meeting new people no matter our sexuality. Thank you for the advice, yeah im pretty concrete on what I would expect for engaging physically for the first time and ultimately trusts comes into it more than anything for myself, I'm in South Wales myself. I'm lucky too that my wife is supportive of me in this situation so I know I have someone I can relay times etc to that I can depend on. It's defiently been a surreal & big journey to go on for myself just pleased I found this forum I'm just plucking up the courage to contact switchboard as I'm still unsure yet of my actual sexuality but I'll get there. Thank you once again for the advice been a massive help
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Post by avocado on Jan 4, 2023 13:10:00 GMT
No problem, please talk to organisations like us and switchboard if you want to, we are happy to help. You may never have a 'label' for your sexuality, it's not right for some people, and thats fine. It's more important that you are comfortable with your sexuality, even if you can't define it.
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