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Post by confused32 on Jan 9, 2023 22:04:36 GMT
Ok I'm not really sure where to start and this is probably going to sound completely crazy and pathetic because I'm 32 years old! I never got to explore my sexuality because I grew up I'm a rubbish household where it was only one sexuality (stupid right) and was always scared to because of the threats of abandonment/disowning etc. Anyway I'm rambling. But I think I'm Ace aswell as Bisexual.. iv always been attracted to both genders but never explored it but apart from to have my children iv never been interested I sex. I can go months without even wanting it or needing it which isn't fair on my husband. He thinks it's him and I don't know how to explain it to him... I know he wouldn't judge or be closed minded he's so supportive of our teenager who came out last year so that's not the issue. I'm just so confused with who I am, iv never explored anything to do with me but now I'm starting to I'm just lost which is probably evident in my rambling... so um yea not sure where I'm going with this other than I don't even know where I am or how to reassure my husband it's me not him.
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Post by Saathi on Jan 10, 2023 15:30:00 GMT
Hi - thanks for your post. I'm one of the LGBT HERO support team. Sounds like you are going through a lot. Questioning our sexual identity can often be a difficult time. Thanks for reaching out. From what you have written it sounds like your family were/are not very supportive and probably lack understanding around sexuality and this can have an effect on us. Talking to our partners about our sexuality can also be daunting as we do not want to be misunderstood or rejected or experience further feelings of guilt or blame. It’s good you feel your husband is supportive and that must feel encouraging to you. This can be a confusing and uncertain for you both but accessing more information can also become an exciting and liberating time and the more information you have the better healthier conversations can be had. From my own experiences many years I go I also questioned my sexual identity and the more I looked into this and spoke to others in confidence the more I understood. Certainly, talking to others helped me. Is this something you would consider for yourself? LGBT Switchboard can be a great start. They are confidential, private and great listeners. switchboard.lgbt0300 330 0630 Open 10:00-22:00 every day Also, have a look at these useful links below: www.lgbthero.org.uk/what-is-sexualitywww.lgbthero.org.uk/pages/category/sexualityI hope some of the above info helps. Let us know how you get on if you feel up to it. Best wishes
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