need an advice
Jan 3, 2024 18:47:45 GMT
Post by hailey123 on Jan 3, 2024 18:47:45 GMT
Hello! Sorry, I am writing with a translator. I am 23 years old girl, bi, I have a girlfriend with whom we have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. I love her very much, but this relationship has already passed into the category of rather platonic, because before becoming a couple we knew each other for more than 15 years and were best friends from early childhood. I do not want to lose her as a friend, but I understand that most likely in the future I want to see myself next to a man, possibly with children (although I don't want children in the coming years). We live in a very homophobic country where such a connection is prohibited by law. Therefore, we cannot show our feelings in public, and several close friends know about our relationship. We rarely see each other, since, firstly, we live with our parents, and secondly, we work a lot.
The fact is that I really liked my work colleague, and all my thoughts are now about him and this has been going on for couple months. He and I are unlikely to succeed in terms of relationships (except friendship), but we hugged several times and I confessed that I like him very much when I was drunk. That's what I've been going through for the last couple of months -- basically, this is cheating on my girlfriend. Maybe something will come out, but his words was that "I am too young for him (he is 4 years older), he wants a serious relationship, a family, and I have not yet been ready for this for at least a couple of years." I haven't slept or eaten for months, I don't know if we should end our relationship. I understand that most likely if we end our relationship, I will be alone - my appearance is quite specific, and before that I had no relationship with anyone. We decided to try to get together with the girl because we are comfortable and good together, we have many common interests. I love her and I don't want to lose her, we went through a lot together and she loves me too. We've been talking about it all with my girlfriend, I've suggested she stay friends, but she's willing to forgive me for it all and give me a second chance. But I understand that in the future all this may happen again from my side, and I do not want to hurt her again. I am very worried about this everything, i just got confused, I just want to speak out and listen to the opinions of others. Thank you in advance
The fact is that I really liked my work colleague, and all my thoughts are now about him and this has been going on for couple months. He and I are unlikely to succeed in terms of relationships (except friendship), but we hugged several times and I confessed that I like him very much when I was drunk. That's what I've been going through for the last couple of months -- basically, this is cheating on my girlfriend. Maybe something will come out, but his words was that "I am too young for him (he is 4 years older), he wants a serious relationship, a family, and I have not yet been ready for this for at least a couple of years." I haven't slept or eaten for months, I don't know if we should end our relationship. I understand that most likely if we end our relationship, I will be alone - my appearance is quite specific, and before that I had no relationship with anyone. We decided to try to get together with the girl because we are comfortable and good together, we have many common interests. I love her and I don't want to lose her, we went through a lot together and she loves me too. We've been talking about it all with my girlfriend, I've suggested she stay friends, but she's willing to forgive me for it all and give me a second chance. But I understand that in the future all this may happen again from my side, and I do not want to hurt her again. I am very worried about this everything, i just got confused, I just want to speak out and listen to the opinions of others. Thank you in advance
