|
Help me!!
Jan 1, 2020 23:03:31 GMT
via mobile
Post by curiousguy on Jan 1, 2020 23:03:31 GMT
Hey everyone, I’ve come on here as I feel like I’m having a mid-life crisis.. despite not being mid-life! So, I’m trying to figure out if I’m gay or Bi.
I know that ultimately this will be for me to decide but I was wondering if anyone can relate and give me some advice.
So, a little about me. I’m 34 years old and I’ve been married to my wife for over 3years and we’ve been together for nearly ten years. We don’t currently have any children. For as long as I can remember I’ve always fantasied about having sex with a feminine ‘tsgirl’ cocks, being fucked by a cock and generally having sex with men who I find attractive but mainly feminine transgender women. Me and my wife haven’t had sex for a LONG time (number of years) and I find myself going on the internet to talk to transgender women and I very nearly met up with one to experience my first real cock (played with dildos/strap ons)
So, I’m still attracted to my wife and women in general but I can’t ignore these urges. I’m assuming this means I’m bi-sexual but I wanted to share to see what other people’s thoughts are.
|
|
|
Post by Piltover on Jan 7, 2020 15:25:27 GMT
Hi Curiousguy, Thanks for your post. I'm a member of the OutLife support team. Firstly, sorry for the delay in responding. The office was shut over the Christmas break which has meant we've been slower at getting back to people. It's really great that you've reached out though as your story echoes that of so many other people who are rediscovering their sexuality in their 30s and beyond. It's completely normal, and there are tonnes of LGBTQ+ people who are going through the same experience as you. As for your question: I think only you can answer that, but it's also good to remember that the labels and terms we use are helpful categorisations and nothing more. Sexuality is complicated, and maybe bisexual is the best word to describe how you feel, or maybe it's panseuxal? Regardless, reading up, talking to other people, and taking some time to sit with your own feelings openly and honestly are all great ways of coming to a personal understanding of your identity. Just remember to take your time, and that there's no pressure for you to have to make any decisions about which of these words most suits you right away. Below I'm going to link to some organisations and resources that may be able to help: Switchboard - If you're looking to talk to someone who is LGBTQ+, then Switchboard is the go-to. It's a helpline that's been running for decades and is staffed with friendly LGBTQ+ volunteers. You can call them on 0300 330 0630, or webchat at switchboard.lgbt/. Online guide - If you're looking for the right words, or just want to read up on sexuality, then this guide can be very helpful. It talks about sexual orientation and identity in a way in which may help you "work yourself out", but please remember you might come away with more questions, and that's OK! www.yoursexualorientation.info/Home_Page.phpI hope these help. Please do let us know how you're getting along and if you have any more questions or need support you know where we are. All the best, Justin
|
|
|
Help me!!
Jan 18, 2020 23:39:28 GMT
via mobile
Post by lizardlou on Jan 18, 2020 23:39:28 GMT
Hey, I’m new to this forum, but I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone! My experience is slightly different, but I felt it makes sense to reach out. Tbh, my current boyfriend is just realizing he’s asexual and I’m finally admitting that I’m interested in women as well as men. I feel that navigating through these feelings while in a relationship is complicated, but it’s so helpful to talk with people that might understand on some level? Idk. Just thought I’d reach out.
|
|
|
Post by gypsy on Jan 23, 2020 13:54:38 GMT
This might sound weird, but I am going through the same crisis. I am married female, though not a happy marriage but this has got nothing to do about my thought process. I had 2 intense relationships with girls in past. I was too young to understand at that point of time, that what I am experiencing is strong romantic feelings toward the same sex. The point is I pushed it down and tried to live according to the society but these feelings are back with vengeance and I am seriously dying to date a woman again. Am I bi? or just plain curious or bored because of an unhappy marriage but than why I don't feel like dating men again? Someone please help.
|
|
elaine57
Newbie
Feeling more positive.
Posts: 19
|
Post by elaine57 on Feb 13, 2020 12:57:27 GMT
It can feel quite difficult to unravel your feelings can’t it. I also have had strong romantic feelings for women only two, l am married and we have struggled with this over the last 18 months especially. My husband has been very supportive while l have tried to understand why this happened to me. I have come to the conclusion that l have romantic feelings for both men and women but not particularly interested in sex with anyone!
|
|
|
Help me!!
Mar 6, 2020 11:05:50 GMT
via mobile
Post by curiousguy on Mar 6, 2020 11:05:50 GMT
Hi Justin, it’s now my turn to apologise for the delay in my response. Thank you sooo much for your reply. I’ve found it really comforting and I’m definitely going to access both of the links you’ve posted as they both seem like they can help me.
Thank you to everyone else who’s commented as i genuinely find comfort in your responses. I hope that everyone can find happiness in their lives.
|
|