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Post by carrie on May 19, 2024 20:26:44 GMT
Hi all
I’m in my early 40s and have decided that I’d like to explore my sexuality and want to start dating women. I’ve only recently realised that I think I am a lesbian, everything is starting to add up and it’s very liberating but a bit daunting at the same time!
In my early childhood I was a tom boy and from early puberty was attracted to the pictures of women in the shopping catalogue and also remember feeling sexual thoughts when having a sleepover at a friends house. I always got on well with boys as mates, but when the expectation of sleeping with a guy had to be faced, I would always have to get drunk to sleep with a man. This happened throughout my adult life and I always ended it with guys as I just don’t have those sort of sexual feelings towards guys, my libido just wasn’t there and I always went back to fantasising about women.
I am on a gay dating site and know what my type of woman is and I can see what sort of a lesbian I am (I believe I’d call myself ‘stem’).
How do I go about meeting people and acting ‘gay’?? It’s all very new to me!
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Post by Saathi on May 20, 2024 9:30:57 GMT
Hi Carrie, thanks for your post. It must be exciting and as you said a little daunting. It sounds like you are very clear in your sexuality and excited to start dating other women. I remember when I finally accepted my sexuality I started going to 'gay' bars way back in the 1990's. etc but I also found joining various social groups in person helped my confidence and self-esteem; mainly to make more friends with likeminded people. Are there any groups local or near where you live? Sometimes these may be a hobby or sports type of group. Websites like 'Meet up' and 'Eventbrite' can be a good start. Dating sites can be also a good start and I guess it's always safe to meet in public and not share location or personal details when chatting online. This is useful too >> askforangela.co.uk/Here at LGBT HERO we run regular social groups online on Zoom www.lgbthero.org.uk/hangouts-5-reasons-to-try-online-social-groupswww.lgbthero.org.uk/Pages/Category/hangoutsHope the above helps and keep in touch Best wishes to you
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