Post by gaymer69 on Jul 1, 2024 7:27:54 GMT
Hey!
Im new here and registered because I have a situation that is bothering me for a while now.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. And our sex life has always been a little difficult. And I’d like to hear some other peoples opinion on this. (I’m not a native English speaker, so sorry for my bad grammar)
We are in an open relationship and my Sex drive is higher than his.
We are both vers we both like to switch things up who takes the Dom role and who is the sub. Altho we both prefer being sub. (We don’t do anal because of health issues)
Lately tho we don’t have a lot of sex. And when we have I am the person doing things, while he lays there and basically does nothing. Which is ok sometimes but not every time . It’s a little frustrating because we talked about it a lot of times and even had fights about it. He says it puts a lot of pressure on him to “perform”. He also said that me saying that I want him to be more active after I give him a bj or whatever, for him it feels like I only give him pleasure because I expect something in return.
Also, I take antidepressants, so cumming takes a while for me now. He said he hasn’t the endurance to keep going until I cum. Especially when he does first. Sometimes he plays with my nipples or we make out for a few minutes but then he stops because he has no more energy.
I tried to finish it myself but I feel weirded out jerking off next to him while he already “moved on”.
But all in all I feel neglected. He always says he likes having sex with me and that he’s attracted to me. But honestly I don’t feel that way after or during sex.
And I feel I cannot talk to him about this topic again because I already did a lot of times. And we fought a lot about it.
And the results of our discussions were that I take to long to come and he can’t keep up, that I have to accept his lack sex drive when he’s with me and that I have to finish myself off after he came.
I don’t know what to do anymore..
Im new here and registered because I have a situation that is bothering me for a while now.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. And our sex life has always been a little difficult. And I’d like to hear some other peoples opinion on this. (I’m not a native English speaker, so sorry for my bad grammar)
We are in an open relationship and my Sex drive is higher than his.
We are both vers we both like to switch things up who takes the Dom role and who is the sub. Altho we both prefer being sub. (We don’t do anal because of health issues)
Lately tho we don’t have a lot of sex. And when we have I am the person doing things, while he lays there and basically does nothing. Which is ok sometimes but not every time . It’s a little frustrating because we talked about it a lot of times and even had fights about it. He says it puts a lot of pressure on him to “perform”. He also said that me saying that I want him to be more active after I give him a bj or whatever, for him it feels like I only give him pleasure because I expect something in return.
Also, I take antidepressants, so cumming takes a while for me now. He said he hasn’t the endurance to keep going until I cum. Especially when he does first. Sometimes he plays with my nipples or we make out for a few minutes but then he stops because he has no more energy.
I tried to finish it myself but I feel weirded out jerking off next to him while he already “moved on”.
But all in all I feel neglected. He always says he likes having sex with me and that he’s attracted to me. But honestly I don’t feel that way after or during sex.
And I feel I cannot talk to him about this topic again because I already did a lot of times. And we fought a lot about it.
And the results of our discussions were that I take to long to come and he can’t keep up, that I have to accept his lack sex drive when he’s with me and that I have to finish myself off after he came.
I don’t know what to do anymore..
