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Post by n33dl3m0us3 on Sept 27, 2024 15:00:59 GMT
It feels like male and female are the more desirable options. I'm aroace-spec, potentially aroace, so why do I care?
I feel like I'm undesirable because of my gender (I'm unsure of it), because it isn't male or female. I don't know why I care about being desired by others. I want this feeling to go away. I hate feeling undesirable and caring about being desired.
After all,who would love me?
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Post by n33dl3m0us3 on Sept 27, 2024 15:05:26 GMT
I feel so heavily disgusted with my identification, and I don't know why.
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Post by skilly on Sept 27, 2024 16:15:18 GMT
Hello, I'm sorry that you feel this way, it may be worth you talking to people who identify within the aroace spectrum to create bonds with people who identify the same way and give you confidence in you identification. Went it comes to your gender identity this is something that is your own journey but you dont have to define it straight away and gender identity does not have to coincide with your sexuality. Your want to feel desired is valid and nothing to be disgusted about! the type of desire you are after may look different to yourself than others so this is something you can explore within your sexuality. I've linked some information that may help bellow - acesandaros.org/groups - acesandaros.org/- www.lgbthero.org.uk/being-non-binary |
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Post by Saathi on Oct 15, 2024 14:49:02 GMT
Hello and sorry you feel like this. I agree with Sam this is your journey and there is no need to define it right now and gender identity does not have to coincide with your sexuality. There is also lots of support out there. Sometimes unpacking how you are feeling by talking to someone in confidence may help. What worked for me was daily journalling, or talking to a counsellor and attending a social support space where I felt safe. At LGBT HERO we will also have social support groups that help reduce isolation which may help. Here is some more info >> www.lgbthero.org.uk/Pages/Category/hangoutsI also found the links/info below useful: www.lgbthero.org.uk/find-supportAlso, there is lots of love out there but I hear what you are saying. I used to have similar feelings and then by connecting with others in social groups, or on forums etc helped me make some positive connections so I understood myself more. Sending best wishes |
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