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Post by Lesbehonest on Mar 6, 2020 15:05:36 GMT
Hi
I wanted to share my story of when I went to by GP to talk about how I was feeling depressed due to the bulling I was getting at school. I came out at age 12 and the bullying started nearly straight away. People wouldn't talk to me, friends rejected me, I was basically alone for quite some time. I felt depressed and my mother thought it would be good for me to speak to my GP. When I went I told him what was going on and why. He's response to me was 'try and not be a lesbian' and see if that works. He said "You should tell people that you were confused and you are not a lesbian anymore". My mother was so shocked and grabbed my arm and we left.
I ended up having to change school due to the bullying and my mother signed me up for a different GP who put me on meds and entered me into counselling.
10 years later I am a happy and healthy lesbian.
The point of my story is, there are good GPs and not so good GPs. Find one that's right for you and understands. This is why training and representation matters.
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Post by Sophie! on Mar 6, 2020 15:07:58 GMT
OMG. I can't believe that happened to you. How do you feel about it all now?
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Post by Lesbehonest on Mar 6, 2020 15:09:14 GMT
I find it funny and annoying at the same time. I mean, I shouldn't have had to deal with that but it made me more self aware of what I will accept and won't accept as a lesbian.
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 6, 2020 15:12:06 GMT
Ohhhh wow, lesbehonest! I can't believe he said that to you. I'm glad you're fine now but that could have been a tipping point for some. Did you or your mother complain about him?
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Post by Lesbehonest on Mar 6, 2020 15:13:28 GMT
My mother did but nothing came out of it. We're talking about 2010 here so it was a little different. I don't think that would be acceptable now. Well I hope not.
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Post by debbiedowner99 on Mar 6, 2020 15:14:21 GMT
Well II'm just glad you came out well in the end. x
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Post by bubus on Apr 6, 2021 14:15:59 GMT
it is always in everyone's mouth to ''speak to your GP''. I have a lovely old man as a GP, but one time there was the other doctor of the practice, a man a bit younger, married.
So I said I was bisexual because I was discussing mental health problems that involved strong crushes and emotions I was having on the job.
he goes: ''bisexual?'' ''yes'' ''have you had sex with a woman???'' he looked EXCITED asking this I kid you not, it's disgusting ''yes'' ''and you had sex with a man, too?'' ''---'' at that point I made a face and repeated ''...bisexual...''
Needless to say, he wasn't paying me any attention after that and refused to take me seriously. I wasn't there to discuss bisexuality, I was there to discuss how to deal with my emotions and how to keep my job, plus surviving stress.
This guy is an intelligent hard working doctor, so clearly I fell like trash.
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Post by valsobg on Oct 31, 2021 14:28:54 GMT
My GP doesn't know I'm not straight. There's no need to anyway. When I feel depressed, I have my own ways to fight depression that never involve medics - either play a game on my computer ("World of Tanks EU") or play some Satyricon and set the volume to the maximum which means 4 blocks from me will listen to the same music - the latter always helps fight depression. If I still feel the need to talk to someone, it would be a friend or a complete stranger but never a doctor of any kind. I simply don't trust them enough to tell them such a big secret. The only exception from that is a psychologist friend who also happens to be a bisexual metalhead like me, so she's probably the only medic who would understand me. But so far I haven't felt the need to use her professional services.
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