my boyfriend is cis..
Jul 1, 2020 0:58:17 GMT
Post by bri on Jul 1, 2020 0:58:17 GMT
hi,
I met my boyfriend in my slow transition of coming out at non-binary. We worked together,and the place wasn't so gay friendly and so i used she/her pronouns.
Since dating my boyfriend i have decided to use they/them pronouns. He struggles a lot with using my proper pronouns, well at least when he is joking around and it has gotten better when i brought it up to him. I kinda wish i didn't have to bring this up to him at all and he took the initiative to learn about using my pronouns and how to support me! I also think tho i could be more communicative about it as i am still shy and struggling with being secure in my gender. I did bring up wanting top surgery and it was just an okay its your body.. where as my friends where so supportive and excited i think i need that positive reinforcement from him as well.
My friends are thinking i should break up with him and i do too sometimes.
He is my best friend and the perfect boyfriend my cis self always wanted. and dreamed about lol.
I guess i am just feeling either i need to put more of an effort to talk about this with him to see how he really feels about my gender but also think it should be on his own initiative.
thanks.
I met my boyfriend in my slow transition of coming out at non-binary. We worked together,and the place wasn't so gay friendly and so i used she/her pronouns.
Since dating my boyfriend i have decided to use they/them pronouns. He struggles a lot with using my proper pronouns, well at least when he is joking around and it has gotten better when i brought it up to him. I kinda wish i didn't have to bring this up to him at all and he took the initiative to learn about using my pronouns and how to support me! I also think tho i could be more communicative about it as i am still shy and struggling with being secure in my gender. I did bring up wanting top surgery and it was just an okay its your body.. where as my friends where so supportive and excited i think i need that positive reinforcement from him as well.
My friends are thinking i should break up with him and i do too sometimes.
He is my best friend and the perfect boyfriend my cis self always wanted. and dreamed about lol.
I guess i am just feeling either i need to put more of an effort to talk about this with him to see how he really feels about my gender but also think it should be on his own initiative.
thanks.
