Heyy all, just looking for a little advice on friendships.

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Heyy all, just looking for a little advice on friendships. Jul 31, 2020 2:29:40 GMT

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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2020 2:29:40 GMT

Hi all, My name is Michael and to be honest i don't know what to write.

I really just want advice on how to make friends... I've been in a relationship with my bf for 7 years and as great as it is i find myself feeling an immense sense of loneliness every now and then. I probably haven't left the house to do anything with anyone other than my partner for the past 9 or so years. I work nights from 10pm till 6am so it probably doesn't help either and i am a really quiet person i suppose i just sink into the background.

I know i need to get out and try speak to people but i honestly don't even know where to start. I mean everything seems so daunting to me. My bf tells me to just make friends but for him it's easy.. I mean him and his friends have a lot in common whereas my interests are completely different so whenever he insists i go with him for a meetup with his friends for a meal or something i'm usually just sitting there not saying a word.

I dunno i think the main thing is sometimes i just need another human being to speak to sometimes.

anyway sorry for babbling on and any advice is appreciated.

Thanks.

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Heyy all, just looking for a little advice on friendships. Jul 31, 2020 10:01:13 GMT

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Post by simonjr on Jul 31, 2020 10:01:13 GMT

Hi Michael,
Sorry you have deleted yourself but just incase you come back to look, certainly phone the Switchboard for a good old chinwag, as they used to say. Or even the Samaritans will be happy to just chat - you don't have to be on the edge or severely depressed. It is really important to reach out for help as soon as you feel the need. You could also contact London Friend - I think they will talk to anyone these days, not only those in and near London. They can even arrange a series of chats for you over several weeks. If you live near Brighton, perhaps try MindOut too. Here are the numbers and links.

Switchboard switchboard.lgbt

Samaritans www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwgo_5BRDuARIsADDEntQvHQwLCPvlDZep9o46MzjwM59nplzQ0utGp-cNn6nZnG3w8oTQcUMaAsWQEALw_wcB

London Friend londonfriend.org.uk/support/

MindOut Brighton www.mindout.org.uk

There is also nothing wrong with chatting to your doctor or GP service about your situation and of course, you can certainly continue to chat here.

Best wishes.
Simon.

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Heyy all, just looking for a little advice on friendships. Jul 31, 2020 21:59:26 GMT via mobile

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Post by Martin on Jul 31, 2020 21:59:26 GMT

Michael, you made a brave step coming onto here to express yourself and maybe just feeling a little apprehensive about it now. Come back and talk to us when you feel ready again.

If it helps, I’ve been there, needing to talk to others. Took me a year before I went along to a group for someone to talk to. It’s surprising how much courage it gives you.

I started the process of coming out in my group having first discussed it with my counsellor. It will be ok.

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