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Post by averylove on Aug 13, 2020 17:48:19 GMT
so to be bi and christian is hard. i feel conflicted all the time and angry. how do i find someone or even come out to my parents in this situation. i don't want sex before marriage but don't want some conservative boyfriend who wouldn't accept me either. is anyone else going through something similar??
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Post by simonjr on Aug 13, 2020 19:45:23 GMT
Hi Averylove! I definitely feel your pain and anger! I am a gay man and was in a very conservative christian environment growing up and most of my life, so I am pretty sure I understand how you feel. So many conflicts aren't there! The Bible has nothing positive to say about sexual diversity. Like you, I believed sex before marriage was a sin but in those days there was no marriage for gay men - it was a particular dilemma. And then my church also would not have condoned the marriage anyway. I felt a lot of frustration and anger with the system and this became an anger and bitterness towards God for me. To cut a very long story short, eventually, I ended up losing my faith, but it was a slow and painful path which took me over 50 years to complete! All I can say is, there is life after faith if you lose it, there really is! Some people do manage to keep their faith and reconcile it to their sexuality but in ways I personally haven't found satisfactory at all. I couldn't find any way that it would work for me. I had to end the conflict I felt, and the cognitive dissonance, and the anger - way too damaging to my health! There is an organisation you may want to consider contacting. This used to be the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement but when I just searched it, it appears to be called 'One Body One Faith' now. Follow this link:- www.onebodyonefaith.org.ukI don't know if that is helpful in any way, but as I said, I feel your pain and genuinely hope you find peace of mind over this soon. Best wishes Simon. |
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