I think I'm Bi

Hi there Ithinkimbi,

Thanks so much for your post, and welcome to the OutLife forums.

Like you I also find it difficult approaching people, and with the pandemic things haven't become any easier. It's a complicated time to meet new people, and restrictions make new experiences harder to find.

I'm a gay man, so don't know a lot about approaching girls, but I do know that it's pretty common for all of us to feel apprehensive when exploring our sexuality. You're exploring your feelings for women for the first time, so it's only natural that you might not know where to start! Firstly, I'd like to let you know that lots of other people are in your situation and that you're not alone. Whether people are in their teens or fifties, they can still be exploring and gaining a greater understanding of their sexuality, and their is a community of friendly LGBTQ+ people and organisations that can help support you. It might feel from your position that you need some kind of 'membership to the club' to get started and talk to other women, but I think you'll find that most people are very supportive of people who are questioning or don't have much experience of same-sex relationships, and also, if you're queer, then you're already a member of the LGBTQ+ community.

Below I'm going to link to a couple of resources below. Whatever you decide going forward, you have to pick the avenue that feels right for you, and go at a pace that feels comfortable.

- Switchboard is an amazing LGBTQ+ helpline staffed by queer volunteers. Whatever you want to to talk about, they're there to listen. It might help to chat to another person about your feelings and maybe discuss how to move forward?
Phone: 0300 330 0630
Email: chris@switchboard.lgbt
Webchat: switchboard.lgbt/

- You don't mention in your email how you identify, but there are lots of social groups out there for people who identify as bi, lesbian, pansexual, or none of these. For instance, Biscuit (https://www.thisisbiscuit.co.uk/5175-2/) lists a large number of bi groups across the country. They're probably not meeting physically at the moment but there are probably ongoing virtual meetups.

I hope that some of the above helps. If not, then please don't hesitate to repost and we'll try and find something that works for you. And do let us know how you're getting along!

All the best,
Justin