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Post by ria122 on Nov 23, 2020 20:42:37 GMT
I have been on POF and Her
I have tried meet up
No one likes me. I am socially quite shy so i don’t say much so i may come across as awkward
I don’t have any friends and everywhere is shut anyway, so fee
isolated and not able to meet any women
Even on POf i keep getting rejected by the women i do like and approached by women i am not keen on who ask for live shows two mins after meeting or don’t seem genuine (one asked me for my number after 20 mins and started to get angry when i refused)
I have been single for ages and i feel i will be alone forever
where are the nice lesbians and how can i get any to actually like me ?
where does one meet suitable women?
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Post by simonjr on Nov 24, 2020 20:57:43 GMT
Hi ria122,
Thank you for your message and welcome to the OutLife forums.
I am sorry to hear of your situation. Isolation is a really big issue at the moment for everyone isn't it!
It sounds like you are doing the right sort of things in putting yourself out there and sifting through possible connections that come up on the dating site. It can get very tiring and upsetting when you find yourself single for so long. I think staying positive about it and keeping on searching is all you really can do.
Very often, people find partners where they aren't looking for them. I mean, joining hobby groups and other communities that are LBGTQ+ friendly where the emphasis is on shared activities rather than finding someone to date. Drama groups, garden or orchid societies, sports, whatever you are interested in or not but are just curious to do something different, all such things are possibilities. Hope is on the horizon with Covid vaccines looking promising and if we can all be a bit more patient, from next spring onwards, it should all be easier to get out and about.
If you fancy a chat on the phone about how you feel, I would definitely recommend you ring the Switchboard 0300 330 0630 anytime between 10am and 10pm.
They may be able to suggest other dating sites that would be better suited to you. I personally don't have any experience with them and would not feel confident to suggest any.
Best wishes
Simon (cis gay man).
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Post by tricktraps on Dec 3, 2020 23:42:01 GMT
Hi
I'm on the exact same situation as you, in fact I only joined this to see if their was anyone in my position. So if you fancy having a chat and getting to know each other I'm all for it.
Cain
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Post by kirhymeswithpie on Dec 5, 2020 22:09:02 GMT
Okckupid is pretty good. Longer profiles, and lots of questions & answers so you can check for things in common before starting a conversation!
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Post by caitlyn on Dec 6, 2020 0:25:22 GMT
Hey Ria, don't feel down, I think it's just a weird time for everyone at the moment. I feel rather lost too - I have never been a lesbian before (lol) and I have just joined a site, but I wont add my pic, not because I am especially ugly - just because I'm not willing to put my face "out there" just yet. I'm sure the right person will come along soon xxx
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Post by BettyM on Jan 12, 2021 9:39:29 GMT
Hi RIA. I can definitely relate to you. And I also joined this forum to know that I am not alone. I have been on Hinge for a while and have met a few people. Perhaps give that a try. This current situation sucks and I too am feeling like I'll never meet someone. But remaining positive. If you wanted someone to talk to, I'm happy to talk 🙂
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Post by Piltover on Jan 12, 2021 11:14:36 GMT
Hey all,
I've also been trying to date during the pandemic and it's pretty tough when you can't actually meet up properly. I think there are lots of us out there who can relate!
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Post by kellylouise92 on Feb 23, 2021 19:05:57 GMT
Preaching to the choir! Have been on every dating app/site going but I live in an area where there really isn’t a massive community so I just see the same 10 or so people on all of them. I’m not totally against long distance but I’ve been down that road before and it was hard (and the break up was harder but that’s a story for another day!) so I’m not sure I could go there again. So totally lost and fed up of being alone.
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Post by nati on Jun 16, 2021 19:51:50 GMT
Hi Ria122,
I feel exactly the same! This topic is one that is not discussed enough in the LGBT community. I have been on so many dating apps and meeting someone who you like and who also likes you is very difficult. There's part of me that feels as if I will never find someone, which is very frustrating as all my friends (who are straight) have significant others. One thing that does give me hope is that when I started therapy to discuss this problem, my therapist who specialises in LGBT problems, said that it is a very common thing, so clearly we are not alone. Something that is particularly frustrating to me, is that movies and TV shows portray people as hypersexual (which theres nothing wrong with) despite the fact that this is not everyone.
Keep trying! Just know that not everyone is in the world of falling in and out of relationships and that it is normal to be single because you haven't found the right person yet.
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Post by brummie16 on Sept 16, 2021 14:19:53 GMT
I was actually looking into setting up lesbian speed dating as there doesn’t seem to be anything.
Don’t give up hope and on many dating apps there are also fake accounts and some are actually men so if they want this that or the other from you and they get shorty with you ask why not about you but about them, turn it around that way.
Also try going out to gay bars as I did this and it does work, try going in for one drink and build your confidence. Think about what you want from a relationship and take your time but firstly take time in you .
I met my partner on ok Cupid after a long ass time as I got to the point that I wasn’t ever going to meet anyone as I was the only lesbian in the village. Just take your time and don’t rush it and it will happen.
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