bhj1
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Post by bhj1 on Jan 18, 2021 10:46:37 GMT
Hi all -
A weird one - i'm 100% straight in terms of attraction - I do not find guys attractive.
However whenever im horny i get a bad urge to want to suck/be bottomed.
anyone else been in a similar sit?
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Post by kuljit on Jan 20, 2021 12:45:10 GMT
Hi bhj1 Thanks for getting in touch and sharing your question about only being sexually attracted to men when you’re feeling horny. Firstly, it’s useful to say that sexual attraction is a complicated thing and there are lots of men and women that have sex with people of the same gender as them but who don’t think of themselves as lesbian, gay or bisexual. When we’re younger or just finding out about our sexuality, it can take some time for us to work out who we prefer to have sex with. Some people’s sexual identity can even keep changing as they experience more of life and get to know themselves better. If you want to find out more about the different ways that people can describe their sexuality take a look at this article www.avert.org/sex-stis/gay-lesbian-bisexual . If you want to talk through things a bit more, you can contact the LGBT+ switchboard for chat and their contact number is 0300 330 0630. You can find out more about them on their website too switchboard.lgbt/about-us/ . Thanks for sharing your question and if you want any more information or want to update us on how you’re getting on, please post again. Thanks Kuljit LGBT Hero Team |
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Post by bubus on Apr 6, 2021 11:31:46 GMT
Hi all - A weird one - i'm 100% straight in terms of attraction - I do not find guys attractive. However whenever im horny i get a bad urge to want to suck/be bottomed. anyone else been in a similar sit? Hi! I wish more guys could have answered you. I am answering as a girl(bisexual). I think those urges can definitely be expressed with some girls too. It is not clear from your post if you crave a guy or a ''submissive'' role in sex, at times. I can speak for myself as a ''dominant'' type(nothing to do with fetish or stuff like that, just the way I like to carry myself sexually, and i'm still flexible to express myself in other ways too). You can meet girls that would actually like to play that with you. The problem is that there are so many rules about what he should do in bed, what she should do in bed. It's exhausting. Does it even matter? As I see it, body parts are just a suit, the equipment you are given. If you are with a person you are attracted by, and you both want to do it and go through the emotions toghether, it bothers me that there is any concept of what one should crave and not the other. I would be in it for the level of honestly, for a genuine sexual interaction, not to act out a darn movie that has been filmed for 40 years. If the guy I fancy would ask me to do anything out of the lines of gender roles because it turns him on, I would be thrilled by the fact that he is being himself. It wouldn't be a problem at all. I never wanted to be ''the female'' in sex, I just wanted to be free to be myself and be respected as a human. And viceversa. Most times I feel represented by gay kisses in romantic movies. It's not that two men turn me on, it's that I feel like I am one of them because that is the kind of mate-energy I crave and naturally like to express. I just recognise myself in many of those scenes, yet I have no desire to look like a man. I don't know if I helped..... I am trying to say that A) bisexuality to some people(like me) it's the norm and B) there are plenty of girls who would love to give you that, but you only find out by having many friends and talking a lot...because females are told by society to play only in a certain way and are shamed if they don't. So the majority doesn't and becomes dead boring. Best of luck. |
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