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Post by glitterboy on Feb 23, 2021 22:38:21 GMT
Hi. Just wanting to know your thoughts on this. Lately realising (a journey of self discovery through lockdown) that I am non binary.
I have always really struggled with my self identify and the idea of finding love.
I am a femme person and realise that finding love being femme and presenting most the time as a femme boy is extremely hard.
Would you consider changing how you look to find love? As soon as I grow a beard and appear “more manly” I get floods of messages. When I’m being authentically me, none.
Any advise would be fabulous x
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Post by Piltover on Feb 24, 2021 11:09:20 GMT
Hi there glitterboy, Thanks for your post and welcome. While I haven't experienced the exact struggle you're facing, I can relate. I'm a gay man and there's so much pressure in the community to look masculine, even though lots of us, myself included, are actually quite comfortable appearing more femme. It's an expectation that's become increasingly toxic in recent years, and it must be really hard to feel like you're not getting the same amount of attention when you present the way you want to. As for your question, I think that's a question only you have the answer to, but I guess I'd like to pose a question in return. Would you feel truly comfortable long-term if you didn't present as femme and weren't able to outwardly express your gender identity the way you want? I just think it's something to consider when thinking about making such change for the benefit of others rather than ourselves. Do you have any friends, particularly nonbinary ones who you could talk this over with? It might help to have a friend who can discuss this with in detail. It also might help to talk with an online community and connect with people who've had similar experiences. Gendered Intelligence has a great list online of resources for nonbinary people, including a forum genderedintelligence.co.uk/projects/kip/transidentities/resources-nbI hope find some of the above helpful. If you've got any more questions please feel to post again and do let us know how you're getting on. Justin xx
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