max
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Post by max on Mar 30, 2021 3:40:39 GMT
Hi, my name is Max and I'm a bit confused on what my gender identity is. I was assigned as a female as birth though I don't completely feel like one. I love using they/them pronouns, but I don't feel completely non-binary. I feel between non-binary and female. But I'm not 100 percent sure what that's called or if I can be not completely non-binary? So if you could help me out that would be great!
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Post by satnam786 on Apr 1, 2021 14:52:33 GMT
Hello Max, welcome to the thread; hope you are well at this challenging time! Sorry to hear that you are feeling confused; it can indeed make us feel in complete limbo and abit lost lost, abit like “no man’s land” feeling neither here nor there, and I empathise with you. Being born physically as a boy/man throughout my life, I have often tapped into parts of me that I would call feminine and at times I remember as a child that I used to want to wear girl’s clothes, high heeled shoes and wear nail varnish but also want to experience long hair and appreciate feminine beauty. I still like things like women’s perfumes which I feel should not be labelled as such. At the same time, I like being a man and appreciate my masculinity. These are all just labels that I call part of the oneness (yin and yang) that merge together at the heart of all things and are quite dynamic; they vary and change a bit like a dance. When we remove all labels, I feel everything is just energy in its different shapes and forms so we do not have to classify or judge it. Them/they are pronouns I sometimes use in addressing people and feel it as a sign of respect as well as neutral too. In that sense the outer things do not express our whole truth and composition and so we can decide ourselves over time, in our own time how we want to care for them, maintain them, express them or even change them if we feel safe and sure to do so with support. Each of us are free to feel exactly what we want to and how we want to as many times as we like and, also to change if we fancy. This is a very personal choice and a basic human right. There are names used to refer to changing between more than one gender such as pan-sexual but we can also use “queer” or even something else we make up or even just a knowing if we do not want to give it a name in personal situations. However, as I am not an expert in these matters I can definitely point you in the direction of relevant support groups you may want to contact for a chat. I do not know your age so will attach a variety of groups that you may want to contact if you feel comfortable in your own time. These are the contacts below: Beaumont Society: 01482 412220 www.beaumontsociety.org.uk24 hour helpline that offers support for various gender identity issues. They have a magazine for members an social functions. Gendered Intelligence: www.genderedintelligence.co.ukSupport for those under 21 years of age. TransLiving International www.transliving.co.ukHelpline advice, information, counselling and self-support groups with monthly social functions and a quarterly magazine. CliniQ 020 3315 5656 – 07545 143797 www.cliniq.org.uk Email: admin@cliniq.org.uk Holistic sexual health, mental health and wellbeing for all trans people, partners and friends. I hope this is of some help to you and do let us know how you get on if you decide to speak to someone or you can write here whenever you would like to. You may even find some inspiration from other replies very soon so do keep checking in 😊 |
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bigbadbazza
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I'm a 60 y/o xxy, non-binary bi Cross dresser & in need of some loving
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Post by bigbadbazza on Jul 11, 2021 6:59:01 GMT
Hi, my name is Max and I'm a bit confused on what my gender identity is. I was assigned as a female as birth though I don't completely feel like one. I love using they/them pronouns, but I don't feel completely non-binary. I feel between non-binary and female. But I'm not 100 percent sure what that's called or if I can be not completely non-binary? So if you could help me out that would be great! Hi Max, in a way I understand where you are coming from I was assigned male at birth but found out when I was 38 that I have klinefelter's syndrome 47xxy witch puts me in the intersexed category but taking testosterone HRT had advice side affects on me I became very confused with my assigned gender, over the years of being dyexnosed with gender dysphoria (something you should look into yourself to hopefully better understand your own confusion) charring cross GID did say I was a good candidate for transitioning but I dote feel the need to transition, although I've come to that decision I still have moments of confusion but I don't consider myself to be a transexual in fact I have come to the conclusion that I'm 50/50 cross dresser non-binary bisexual bit of a mouth full but its taken me 22 years to come up with that combination yes in some way I desire the body of a female some aspects of if would be easier to live and deal with as in I prefer dressing in female attire one thing I've never fully understood is why I seem to understand female sizing better than male or why I appear to rather dress feminine than male for instance I can't stand wearing a male shirt but give me a female shirt or blouse and I enjoy wearing them strongly odd and in my latter years want so much to be with another male dote get me wrong I still find women attractive in some discrimination but at the moment have a grater desire to be with another male thing is I'm a receiver not a giver as I would be with a woman, life is confusing at the best of times especially full of these emotions and sensations but I guess that's what being between two genders is all about. You could try speaking to your GP and asking for a referral to a gender clinic like charring cross GID (gender identity disorder). |
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