Always sex with ex

Hi ukspainboy,

Welcome to the forums! Sorry for the late response.

It sounds like your friends are trying to protect you from any potential emotional pain if your attachment to your ex gets too great and you're left wanting to get back together.

I've been in similar situations with ex partners, where some kind of relationship has continued after we are no longer a couple, and it can be tricky to navigate, but only you know what your limits are and what is best for you emotionally. Some people manage to remain good friends with their ex after they break up, some people prefer to have no contact whatsoever. Whatever you decide, I think the best thing anyone can do is to reflect on their own feelings honestly, and come to a considered and aware decision about what they're doing.

If you'd like to talk to another LGBTQ+ person about what you're going through then I'd recommend calling Switchboard, the LGBTQ+ helpline. They've got a great team of trained volunteers who'd gladly talk through your situation with you. You can contact them on 0300 330 0630, 10am - 10pm.

Justin