Post by cluelessbutfab on May 5, 2021 17:03:04 GMT
Hello! I would really appreciate some help or guidance.
Recently I started going to a therapist and today we went through my whole family history. The thing that alarmed me the most is that my therapist said that I’m not really gay, that the fact that my father was very absent in my formative years is the reason I look for affection in other men.
This makes sense, I suppose? But I’m very upset because my homosexuality has always been a part of my life ever since I was a little kid, and it took me hard work and a long time to accept it. I am now a 21 year old man who’s very happy being gay, I don’t feel attracted to women at all. I’ve always been drawn to female characters or female friends, and I think women are amazing, but I don’t feel attracted to them at all, but my therapist says this is the truth deep down.
I’m very conflicted because I have all of these different dreams, meeting a good man, and making a life together, getting married, traveling, having a nice house, encouraging each other to grow and be better people, maybe even having a kid, who knows really, but my point is that I have these dreams and longings I hold very near and dear to my heart, and now my therapist comes and tells me it’s not really what would make me happy, not what I truly want and I’m just so overwhelmed and I don’t even know what to make of this.
I am very happy as a gay man, and I can’t even begin to picture myself as anything else, but as dramatic as it may sound, my therapist made me feel like all of those year working on accepting and loving myself and feeling comfortable with this are a lie of some sort.
I would really appreciate some guidance and support!
Recently I started going to a therapist and today we went through my whole family history. The thing that alarmed me the most is that my therapist said that I’m not really gay, that the fact that my father was very absent in my formative years is the reason I look for affection in other men.
This makes sense, I suppose? But I’m very upset because my homosexuality has always been a part of my life ever since I was a little kid, and it took me hard work and a long time to accept it. I am now a 21 year old man who’s very happy being gay, I don’t feel attracted to women at all. I’ve always been drawn to female characters or female friends, and I think women are amazing, but I don’t feel attracted to them at all, but my therapist says this is the truth deep down.
I’m very conflicted because I have all of these different dreams, meeting a good man, and making a life together, getting married, traveling, having a nice house, encouraging each other to grow and be better people, maybe even having a kid, who knows really, but my point is that I have these dreams and longings I hold very near and dear to my heart, and now my therapist comes and tells me it’s not really what would make me happy, not what I truly want and I’m just so overwhelmed and I don’t even know what to make of this.
I am very happy as a gay man, and I can’t even begin to picture myself as anything else, but as dramatic as it may sound, my therapist made me feel like all of those year working on accepting and loving myself and feeling comfortable with this are a lie of some sort.
I would really appreciate some guidance and support!
