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Post by millie03 on May 11, 2021 9:01:54 GMT
I'm currently reviewing for my licensure examination this coming August and keep being distracted with thoughts of being with a straight classmate. It's really bothersome and everytime I thought about. All of my frustrations about being gay comes on like a tsunami consuming me to the point of not being able to focus anymore unless I completely distract myself from everything. These frustrations include not being attractive enough especially and the thought of being alone till I die. I can't really express these feelings fully with words. So I hope I got the message through enough for anyone to understand. Every advice will be fully a appreciated.
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Post by liammurphy on May 13, 2021 14:47:52 GMT
Hi there Millie,
Thanks so much for posting. Welcome to the OutLife Forums!
I understand what you're going through. A lot of people go through these attractions and feelings of not feeling valued or attractive.
With your classmate being straight, they aren't going to be able to reciprocate the attraction, but don't let that impact your self-esteem. I don't know your specific circumstances (how old you are or whether you are out as gay) but you will become more confident in your sexuality and it'll make it easier to navigate these feelings in a predominantly heteronormative environment.
Use the OutLife forums to talk about what you're feeling, as I guarantee you that someone else has been through the same things.
If you wanted to talk to someone you can call the Switchboard LGBT+ helpline on 0300 330 0630 for free advice. You might find it easier to articulate on a call.
We are here if you need anything.
Liam - LGBT HERO
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Post by bubus on May 15, 2021 10:44:06 GMT
Every virgin has the same experience. also a dozen girls will feel the same way while the guy goes with the pretty one.
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Post by aylarose3 on Oct 29, 2021 18:46:44 GMT
Hi there Millie, Thanks so much for posting. Welcome to the OutLife Forums! I understand what you're going through. A lot of people go through these attractions and feelings of not feeling valued or attractive. With your classmate being straight, they aren't going to be able to reciprocate the attraction, but don't let that impact your self-esteem. I don't know your specific circumstances (how old you are or whether you are out as gay) but you will become more confident in your sexuality and it'll make it easier to navigate these feelings in a predominantly heteronormative environment. Use the OutLife forums to talk about what you're feeling, as I guarantee you that someone else has been through the same things. If you wanted to talk to someone you can call the Switchboard LGBT+ helpline on 0300 330 0630 for free advice. You might find it easier to articulate on a call. We are here if you need anything. Liam - LGBT HERO hope everyones well |
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Post by why on Nov 8, 2021 12:57:20 GMT
Hi, my name is Robert, i'm 20 years old and i'm attracted to men.
I am going through the most difficult times of my life. Long story shot, i started university last year, since day one i met a guy who became one of my best frineds, he always helped me with classes and homework and so did i whenever i could. I didn't have a crush on him so fast, but after talking for almost two years, i can't stop thinking about him, i really like him. Unfortunatelly he's straight, lately he's been talking to me about a girl, a girl that he spends most of the time with, takes her to his house and everything. This is so frustrating for me, i see that girl as the luckiest person ever. What i used to do so i can stop the anxiety is avoid him talking about that girl with me, because i think what i don't know can't hurt me. But it is inevitable, for an example, i asked him to do some papers to join a company's project together and he told me that he can't because that girl will come to her house today, i couldn't help meyself any other way only by starting breathing to relief the huge anxiety.
What can i do to stop thinking about him? What can i do so i don't get so anxious. I'm not open with my sexuality, i don't want to tell him that i like him because i think that will ruin our friendship. Please help me with some adivce.
thank you in advance.
There's no day that i wasn't depressed or anxious.
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Post by wolfy on Feb 28, 2022 9:43:41 GMT
Hello all,
This has happened to me more often that I could say - and although it has been torturous, I've got used to it. Happened first at school with a lad -I was brave enough (or silly enough) to tell him. He reacted badly, and so since then I have suffered in silence! But as I said, I've gotten used to it.
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