Willow ♡
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Post by Willow ♡ on May 19, 2021 14:16:36 GMT
I’m growing up with a mom and dad who are strictly religious. So they believe that LGBT+ people are going to Hell. They don’t outright say it because they find the topic inappropriate, but I’ve seen small hints. Plus, my mom told me how sinful it is and directly said that she is homophobic. No one else in my family thinks otherwise. Along with that, I’m not allowed to date or sleep in college dorms. I’m 13 years old, what should I do?
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hieu
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Post by hieu on May 19, 2021 17:47:47 GMT
Hello you,
It is so sad to know that your parents go against LGBT, especially your mother. I understand that being religious is normally unfamiliar with our community, and I understand you are feeling stuck right in the house. It is definitely not comfortable.
I think you are aware that being that young will be a bit challenging to make a complete change within your family; however, it would be much easier if you could gently making some minus changes like talking about LGBT topics more frequently or mentioning some positive events from countries that support LGBT community. It would create some kind of approach for both of you. I did it on my come-out path it was pretty success to me.
I hope it'll help.
Love
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Post by Piltover on May 20, 2021 14:53:25 GMT
Hi there anonymouse, Thanks for your post. Welcome. I'm sorry that you've had to experience such attitudes from you parents. It's really tough hearing that kind of talk from the people who you love. I remember when I was around your age my parents who were also religious would make similar comments and it would always hurt me to hear. However, for me things did get better, and my relationship with my parents is much more positive and based around mutual respect, even though we disagree. While I can't tell you what to do in your specific situation, or how best to interact with your family, I definitely can provide some reassurance that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being LGBTQ+, and that whatever your sexuality or gender identity, it's a wonderful part of you that deserves to be celebrated. You're definitely not alone in your situation, even though it probably feels lonely. There are huge amounts of LGBTQ+ youth in similar situations, and a whole community of queer people out there who can lend support. It sounds from your message like you're based in the US, as you talk about college dorms, but do correct me if I'm wrong. We're a UK based charity so aren't experts in what support you can find in the States, but I'd recommend looking at sites like itgetsbetter.org/ for information, as well as numbers you can call where you can speak to an LGBTQ+ person. You might find that connecting with other people who share your identity is helpful, even if it doesn't directly change your current situation.[ Please do let us know how you get on. We're always here if you need us. Love and solidarity, Justin |
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