Anxiety with been bisexual and in a relationship

Hi eb. I’ve read up on your last posts and I just want to say that sexuality is confusing, and that anxiety can make us question everything.

It sounds like you had a great time with your boyfriend. I’m not bi myself, but I do think that passing thoughts about other people being attractive, be they strangers or people on tv is normal. It doesn’t mean that you’re wasting your boyfriend’s time. And, like you said, you still want your boyfriend. It does sound like you’re truly committed to him, which is great and so important in a healthy relationship! And, like you said—the thought about your wasting your boyfriend’s time is just that: a back thought. It will pass.

I think it’s a great idea to talk to a therapist who can help you work through your anxiety and insecurity about your sexuality. If your therapist tells you that you don’t love your boyfriend, then you need to find a different therapist. Full stop. Any therapist worth their salt would never say something like that.

And good on you for talking to your boyfriend about all this. He sounds like a great person.

Some mental health resources are MindOut, London Friend, Switchboard, and LGBT Foundation if you need them.

Feel free to keep us posted on your journey and how it goes with your therapist. Best of luck and don’t hesitate to reach out for support.

Elle