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Confusion
Jun 26, 2021 21:45:54 GMT
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Post by smolpink on Jun 26, 2021 21:45:54 GMT
So I started talking to someone that I've grown a liking to. However, recently I started having an identity crisis and now I'm not sure what my sexuality or gender identity is officially. Also, I recently came out of an abusive relationship and do have some issues of my own that I know I need to correct. I wouldn't like to start a relationship with this person but I do worry that trying to resolve my issues while dating will ruin the relationship dynamic.
What should I do?
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Post by ellel on Jun 28, 2021 14:00:11 GMT
Hi there. Thanks for your post. I’m sorry to hear that you’re having an identity crisis, but you’re not alone. I’m glad that you’re out of the abusive relationship. If you want to talk to someone about your issues regarding the abusive relationship and/or your sexuality and gender identity, therapy may be a good option. PinkTherapy www.pinktherapy.com/ has a directory of LGBTQ+-friendly therapists. It’s great that you like this person, and only you can decide if you want to try and start a relationship with them or not. But I’d say that you shouldn’t feel the need to rush into anything, and take your time to heal and/or sort yourself out if need be. You’ll know if the time is right to try and begin a new relationship. I wish you the best in figuring out your identity and please feel free to keep us updated on how you’re doing. If you’d like further support, check out PinkTherapy (linked above). Switchboard switchboard.lgbt/ and LGBT Foundation lgbt.foundation/ are two other good resources. They both have LGBTQ+ helplines. And GALOP www.galop.org.uk/lgbt-survivors/ has an LGBT survivors forum, if you'd like to seek further support there. Elle
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Post by smolpink on Jul 4, 2021 7:33:25 GMT
Hi ellel thank you for responding.
We're currently seeing each other but taking things slow, she understands that I need to heal and is supportive when it comes to me expressing my concerns.
I know that it will take a while for me to fully heal and be as 100% as I can be but I'm willing to improve my mental state without putting too much on her. Thank you for the links, I will look into those.
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Post by ellel on Jul 5, 2021 11:56:07 GMT
So glad to hear that you are seeing each other in a way that works for both of you!
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