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Post by leanneotm on Jul 5, 2021 20:05:59 GMT
Okay long story short. I’m 25, 26 this month. I knew I was attracted to women in my early teens, even came out at 16 to my family and friends as bisexual. I have had two long term relationships with males, the first lasted 4 years with a guy and I’ve had two children from that relationship. The second relationship I am in now, been together nearly 4 years this year and also engaged.
I have always been open about my sexuality and my current partner knows I’m more into women than men. However every so often I get a feeling of insecurity that I’m unsure that being with a man is what I want. I’ve done things with females just never been in a relationship with a woman
I just need to know that I’m not alone in this. Is this something anybody else has been through? I’m considering talking to my partner about how I feel, that I possibly want to explore my sexuality more. I love him so much but these feelings never go away. I just don’t know what is the best option. Do I carry on in this relationship but constantly hide my feelings? Or do I risk ruining this relationship over something that I am unsure of?
I hope somebody has been in a similar situation that can give me pointers because I really don’t know what to do
Leanne
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Post by ellel on Jul 6, 2021 9:41:18 GMT
Hi there. Thanks for your post. It sounds like you’re in a bit of a tricky situation. I haven’t been in a similar situation, so I can’t necessarily relate, nor can I tell you exactly what to do. That being said, I can try to give you some pointers. It sounds like you are in a great relationship with your partner and it’s great that you’re open with your sexuality. It’s normal to feel insecurities and you’re definitely not alone in your situation and how you feel. There are plenty of other people who have been through this. Again, I can’t tell you what to do. But I don’t think you’ll be happy hiding your feelings and letting them build up. That could just end in an explosion and everyone involved feeling crappy. It sounds like your partner would be open to talking with you about possibly exploring your sexuality more. Communication is the best option, in my opinion. Just getting it out there can be such a relief. If you’d like some further support, Switchboard switchboard.lgbt/ and LGBT Foundation lgbt.foundation/ both have LGBTQ+ helplines. PinkTherapy www.pinktherapy.com/ has a directory of LGBTQ+-friendly therapists if you think that therapy may be a good option for you. I hope this was helpful. Please feel free to keep us updated on how you’re doing. Elle
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