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Post by claire88 on Aug 2, 2021 0:20:19 GMT
I am 33 and always been in relationships with men but I've been attracted to women since high school. I never experimented as I know my family would not accept it. I know some will say if they love you they will bit they won't there anti gay. I've had children and am currently in a relationship for 3 years. I am regretting not experimenting cause it has left me unsure if my attraction to women is fantasy or real. Any thoughts
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Post by Piltover on Aug 6, 2021 13:59:27 GMT
Hi there claire88, Thanks for your post. And welcome! Sharing with others about your sexuality is often difficult, so I'd like to start by saying congrats! Sounds like you're in a very similar position to a lot of people out there who experience same sex attraction, or think they might, but haven't ever dipped their toe in the pool of experimentation. It sounds like you're frustrated that you've never managed to see what that would be like. Our circumstances are quite different as I came out when I was young, but I do remember a lot of frustration when I hadn't been able to act on feelings I was having. I'd also like to respond to your comment about whether your attraction to women is "fantasy or real", because attraction can be very real, even if you haven't had sex, or even kissed a person of the gender you think you're attracted to. You don't need to have had sex with a woman in order to validate those feelings: feelings and attraction exist independently of sex and physical acts etc, and you can be bisexual if you've never been with a woman. I can't really tell you what you should do moving forward, but it might be worth, if you think they'd be receptive, talking to your partner about your feelings? Or maybe if you'd like to talk to someone who'd understand and isn't in your life, I can thoroughly recommend Switchboard, which is an LGBTQ+ helpline for anyone to talk about sexuality, gender, and more. They're lovely, and maybe talking to them might help you figure out where you want to go from here? I'm going to leave Switchboard's contact details below. I really hope that you found some of the above helpful, and you can always get back in touch. Switchboard - 0300 330 0630, 10am-10pm Webchat - switchboard.lgbt/Email - chris@switchboard.lgbt |
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