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Post by robin1979 on Aug 19, 2021 19:27:13 GMT
Knocking on the door of sixty and in the last 4 years my sexuality has done a total u turn, always thought myself straight but nolonger, females hold no interest or sexual atraction any more and only find gay fantasies and porn turn me on, the intensity of the desire is strong and overpowering at times, something I have never felt in my "straight" life, but now I'm stuck with this I can't satisfy these feelings in private on my own, It will not be put back in its box and I will not be able to experience them for real due to family circumstances, there have been some clues through my life that I may have leanings in this direction but I chose to ignore them, I guess this is the price you pay for that, I am shocked by the intense raw power of this and want to know how others manage there own similar situations. I sometimes think I'd rather have no sexual feelings at all and slip quietly in to old age.
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Post by Piltover on Aug 23, 2021 12:47:20 GMT
Hi there robin1979, welcome to the forums! I was really touched by your story, thank you for sharing it with us. I came out pretty early in life, so don't know exactly what you're experiencing but I do remember having desires and not feeling able to act on them. It can be a really tough thing to go through, especially when you don't feel like you have any support. I'm not here to tell you what to do, but I'd like to reassure you a little by letting you know that there are many people who rediscover their sexuality later in life, and that there is a support out there for you, should you want to talk to someone about how you're feeling. For instance, LGBT Foundation in Manchester runs support groups for gay married men or men questioning their sexuality: lgbt.foundation/groupsYou don't mention where you are based but you can also access support through Switchboard the LGBT helpline. They'd be happy to talk to you about your feelings and maybe help you find some local support. You can call them on 0300 330 0630 10am - 10pm. I know that you probably feel quite frustrated and stuck right now, but you're by no means alone and there are groups and organisations out there that can help you find a way forward. Hopefully you found some of the above helpful. Please do post again to let us know how you're getting on. J |
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Post by robin1979 on Aug 23, 2021 16:53:24 GMT
Thank you for your reply justinmj and you are right about needing support and am looking for just that so I will be looking at the link you suggested it is difficult when there really is no one to confide in my wife is the only person who knows and has been fantastically understanding, but I do need to talk to someone else about this, I am perfectly happy with the situation, because it fit's and makes sense of a lot of things but very confused by it and the same questions endlessly going round in my head are getting me nowhere.
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