Just came out as bi.

Hi there and thanks for your post.

Congrats on coming out as bisexual, especially after experiencing some denial. It does sound super hard, and I’m glad you feel relief. There’s no going back now, and at least you got it done! Everyone’s coming out journey is different and there is no ‘right’ time to come out.

It sounds like you’re in a bit of a tricky situation with your landlord’s son, but you definitely aren’t alone in falling for someone who is straight. I think falling for straight people is one of the eternal queer problems.

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling with some anxiety, though it sounds like your landlord’s friend has been helpful. He sounds like a great person.

It makes sense that you’re worried about him moving out, but could you get his contact info and stay in touch if he does move out? If you’re comfortable, keeping that line of communication open could ensure that you will see him again, even if it’s not as frequently as before.

I don’t think you’re wrong or stupid. You’ve had this whole coming out journey, anxiety, etc., which are all problems you’re not alone in as a bisexual person. Plenty of other bi and queer people have gone through the same thing. You’re allowed to feel your feelings, no matter what they are.

I hope some of this was helpful.

If you’d like further support, Switchboard switchboard.lgbt/ has an LGBTQ+ support helpline.

You also mentioned that you’ve been suffering with anxiety-- PinkTherapy www.pinktherapy.com/ has a directory of LGBTQ+-friendly therapists if you think that therapy may be a good option for you.

Elle