I don't like how people experience sexual attraction
Sept 21, 2021 9:25:19 GMT
Post by bubus on Sept 21, 2021 9:25:19 GMT
Hi, I am bisexual and I don't like how mono-sexual people experience and prioritize sexual attraction.
I accept it because I have to accept people's ways, but it bothers me.
To me, genitalia and body parts in general are irrelevant...they are like the cutlery when you are eating a meal. The fact of having to use a fork or a spoon is not a discriminating factor into how much I like or not like the food. The ''food'' for me is the person and their specific energy, or character, and how much I think it goes well with mine.
In my own sexuality/experience, if I like someone, I will then start being attracted to their body and their parts, regardless of any pre-established ''attractive'' cathegory.
I have found small hands crazy attractive, short stature, big hands, short or long hair, skin colors, clothes, tatoos, body shapes...things that I never thought of as ''attractive'' before seeing them on a specific person I liked.
But straight and gay people don't seem to experience the same (do they? I ask), as they seem to experience physical attraction based on what they see in looks, first. Therefore, they could literally like you a lot or a little depending on how hot or cute you look today. And you could loose that connection at any time for ''not being pretty enough''.
I get liking beards, and muscles, and broad shoulders...because I like them too, a LOT if I am into that person, but I also like soft skin, long hair, narrow busts, long legs, strong legs, chubby people and all a variety of things that contradict each other and can appear in the same person in strange combination because..... I am mainly attracted to a person for the ''vibe'' they have, and only consequently to how their body looks. From that point, I AM attracted to how their body look.
I can still see that there are beautiful people, but that is not really a strong sexual attraction factor for me, it is rather very short lived, and not something I would seriously consider to pursue to experience intimacy and good sex, because I know it won't lead to good sex or satisfaction, for me.
I am looking for gay and straight people to share their experience and let me know or accept better, as obviously I do fancy straight and gay people too...and I am a bit uncomfortable looking at how they expect to experience physical attraction, and how they rate me in a different way.
Thanks.
I accept it because I have to accept people's ways, but it bothers me.
To me, genitalia and body parts in general are irrelevant...they are like the cutlery when you are eating a meal. The fact of having to use a fork or a spoon is not a discriminating factor into how much I like or not like the food. The ''food'' for me is the person and their specific energy, or character, and how much I think it goes well with mine.
In my own sexuality/experience, if I like someone, I will then start being attracted to their body and their parts, regardless of any pre-established ''attractive'' cathegory.
I have found small hands crazy attractive, short stature, big hands, short or long hair, skin colors, clothes, tatoos, body shapes...things that I never thought of as ''attractive'' before seeing them on a specific person I liked.
But straight and gay people don't seem to experience the same (do they? I ask), as they seem to experience physical attraction based on what they see in looks, first. Therefore, they could literally like you a lot or a little depending on how hot or cute you look today. And you could loose that connection at any time for ''not being pretty enough''.
I get liking beards, and muscles, and broad shoulders...because I like them too, a LOT if I am into that person, but I also like soft skin, long hair, narrow busts, long legs, strong legs, chubby people and all a variety of things that contradict each other and can appear in the same person in strange combination because..... I am mainly attracted to a person for the ''vibe'' they have, and only consequently to how their body looks. From that point, I AM attracted to how their body look.
I can still see that there are beautiful people, but that is not really a strong sexual attraction factor for me, it is rather very short lived, and not something I would seriously consider to pursue to experience intimacy and good sex, because I know it won't lead to good sex or satisfaction, for me.
I am looking for gay and straight people to share their experience and let me know or accept better, as obviously I do fancy straight and gay people too...and I am a bit uncomfortable looking at how they expect to experience physical attraction, and how they rate me in a different way.
Thanks.