Keep dreaming about new friend but I’m in happy relationship

Hi ocean14,

Thanks for your post and welcome to the forums!

Sounds like you're feeling a little bit bothered at the moment! I think what you're going through is actually a really common experience though. Personally I've had dreams about a *lot* of people that have been sexual when I'm not attracted to the person and though I identify as gay, sometimes they're about women. I'm sure that most people would say that they've had the same thing happen to them at some point.

I'm no expert, but it's my general understanding that very often dreams are just dreams, and that attaching a specific meaning to a particular dream of a person doesn't have to mean anything at all. The subconscious is very complex, and not something that science has a great understanding of yet, and the science of dreams isn't well understood either as far as I know.

What I would say matters is that you've said that you're very happy with your friendship, and with your relationship with your girlfriend, and that in your waking time you're not experiencing feelings of attraction toward your friend either. This all sounds great so I'd try not to ruminate on your dreams too much.

I hope that some of the above helps! Take care of yourself and come back to us if you have any more questions.

Best,
J