Post by brummie16 on Oct 27, 2021 14:21:15 GMT
Well lesbian relationships are so not easy and after being with my gf for 8 years now you just struggle with knowing which way to turn.
So a few weeks back I stayed with her In her parents flat as she lives at home (she’s 37 I’m 53 but I look 43 as I look after myself) I was with her for a week and was coming home to my own house, but her mum was going away and my gf works so I had to help sort out a test kit for her going on a cruise. So I sort that out which took 3 days and I was getting home sick. I drive with my gf and her mum to get to her ship which was a lovely day but a long drive there and back.
The following day I could sense something wasn’t right the air was thick, i ordered in some nice food and as I’m sat in the kitchen my gf goes to lie down, this was in the evening around 6 pm, she called me into the bedroom to sit with her and I’m visibly upset as I can feel the tension in the air, I tell he to not worry about food as I ordered in some nice food which she loves and also tell her I will be going home the following day, she then asks me to go home that day and I’m thinking “so this is why I feel a change in atmosphere you don’t want me here “ I say that’s fine and act ok with it she can’t see how visibly upset I was , and yes I was going home the next day but I wanted this to be special because living with her parents we don’t get much alone time but she tells me she needs space and to get her head together , now her dad is home but I get my things together and get the bus home and she goes for a walk.
The next day she sends me pictures of her being out with her dad shopping and tells me they are going away fishing together , now only a couple of days prior to this I told her how much I would love to go, we never do what I like to do she will always changes the plans I make and finds an excuse .
I send her a message of how wrong this is and why ask for alone time if she’s then going to send me pictures of herself out with her dad and then arranging a few days away together and asks her to stop being so tactless and to stop sending me pictures.
Anyway, we spoke about it and she simply said she couldn’t go alone so took her dad. Lol yeah right. I dealt with it and told her it’s time we did what I enjoy and organised a game of tennis on the Sunday. Friday comes and she cancels because she has shoulder pain but wants to go fishing instead but I refused and told her how when you Change my plans again then you want me to do your thing
We deal with this and do neither but go on walks.
2 weeeks passed as I went to see family as I struggled being alone so I got away. On my return I go see her as it’s been a while apart, again she wants to go fishing so we get it all set but it’s that time of the month so we wait it out, days pass and I’m there and we don’t go and again she tells me she needs a good sleep as she doesn’t want to look done in and asks me to go home and how it might be good if we sleep apart for a while, then she drops me home after we went out for the day doing her thing but she tells me “I will be ok in a day or so and we can go fishing then” I agreed and loved being home.
Sunday comes and she video calls me telling me “ok so I have asked my dad to go fishing with me on Monday (25th) but if you want to you can join us” I’m thinking what the f@@k but when she’s telling me this she can’t look at me and ends the video call blaming bad signal and telephones me. I say to her “Ok we will see what Monday brings” she has a habit of up and going back to her folks to get a bath and I’m left with just a wash down in the tent as I don’t drive as she had done this to me when we went fishing on my birthday but I told her to get her dad to return to the tent as I’m leaving, she was tired on this occasion and wanted me to stay alone but I refused.
Anyway I messaged her and told her I won’t be joining her and again she’s now fishing with her dad and she has been off work due to pain on her shoulder and she due back to work this coming Monday so I won’t see her for a while. I am someone who won’t just turn up either.
I’m getting to the point where I’m sick of this behaviour as it’s always her way and I have reached the point of what’s the point and what’s the point of saying anything because it changes nothing as she only sees her side .
She’s lived with her dad all her life and due to the upbringing she has as a Jehovah witness they rarely mixed with people. Her dad well the man I struggle with but I keep my cool. I bought a fridge of food in as it’s wrong to eat other peoples and I will cook for me and my gf. Now he comes in from being out shopping let’s it be known he isn’t happy with my buying food and takes his trolley into the bedroom which my gf questioned and he gives off stinking vibes and moans even when I do cook claiming he can’t stand the smell of food cooking “I’m a vegetarian “. I have just reached a point as my life like this can’t go on and I can’t see it changing but she always make my feelings feel as though I’m being foolish with how I think. I’m just at a loss.
We were meant to be cohabiting in a motorhome but she said let’s put it on hold and she continues to raise this and tells me that I could also buy a motor home and have our separate places if we needed space, I have point blank refused and told her I will never share a home with her that things will never change , I just want more than this from my relationship as I made a huge sacrifice already by moving from the NW to be a short drive from her but I’m at that point, when I last saw her she put on this lovely top her mum bought her and she looked really nice as she’s a gir with the looks with everything , I felt nothing at all and she’s there with this huge smile on her face.
Once in the time I was there it’s evening time and I sit in the kitchen reading and she’s in her room organising it and I always give her that space when I’m there, she comes in puts her arms around me and tells me she lives me “oh I love you as your not one of those woman who wants us to travel abroad or do this and that and you accept me when most wouldn’t “ but I want to travel I want to experience life and now I feel as though this is some kind of manipulation.
So a few weeks back I stayed with her In her parents flat as she lives at home (she’s 37 I’m 53 but I look 43 as I look after myself) I was with her for a week and was coming home to my own house, but her mum was going away and my gf works so I had to help sort out a test kit for her going on a cruise. So I sort that out which took 3 days and I was getting home sick. I drive with my gf and her mum to get to her ship which was a lovely day but a long drive there and back.
The following day I could sense something wasn’t right the air was thick, i ordered in some nice food and as I’m sat in the kitchen my gf goes to lie down, this was in the evening around 6 pm, she called me into the bedroom to sit with her and I’m visibly upset as I can feel the tension in the air, I tell he to not worry about food as I ordered in some nice food which she loves and also tell her I will be going home the following day, she then asks me to go home that day and I’m thinking “so this is why I feel a change in atmosphere you don’t want me here “ I say that’s fine and act ok with it she can’t see how visibly upset I was , and yes I was going home the next day but I wanted this to be special because living with her parents we don’t get much alone time but she tells me she needs space and to get her head together , now her dad is home but I get my things together and get the bus home and she goes for a walk.
The next day she sends me pictures of her being out with her dad shopping and tells me they are going away fishing together , now only a couple of days prior to this I told her how much I would love to go, we never do what I like to do she will always changes the plans I make and finds an excuse .
I send her a message of how wrong this is and why ask for alone time if she’s then going to send me pictures of herself out with her dad and then arranging a few days away together and asks her to stop being so tactless and to stop sending me pictures.
Anyway, we spoke about it and she simply said she couldn’t go alone so took her dad. Lol yeah right. I dealt with it and told her it’s time we did what I enjoy and organised a game of tennis on the Sunday. Friday comes and she cancels because she has shoulder pain but wants to go fishing instead but I refused and told her how when you Change my plans again then you want me to do your thing
We deal with this and do neither but go on walks.2 weeeks passed as I went to see family as I struggled being alone so I got away. On my return I go see her as it’s been a while apart, again she wants to go fishing so we get it all set but it’s that time of the month so we wait it out, days pass and I’m there and we don’t go and again she tells me she needs a good sleep as she doesn’t want to look done in and asks me to go home and how it might be good if we sleep apart for a while, then she drops me home after we went out for the day doing her thing but she tells me “I will be ok in a day or so and we can go fishing then” I agreed and loved being home.
Sunday comes and she video calls me telling me “ok so I have asked my dad to go fishing with me on Monday (25th) but if you want to you can join us” I’m thinking what the f@@k but when she’s telling me this she can’t look at me and ends the video call blaming bad signal and telephones me. I say to her “Ok we will see what Monday brings” she has a habit of up and going back to her folks to get a bath and I’m left with just a wash down in the tent as I don’t drive as she had done this to me when we went fishing on my birthday but I told her to get her dad to return to the tent as I’m leaving, she was tired on this occasion and wanted me to stay alone but I refused.
Anyway I messaged her and told her I won’t be joining her and again she’s now fishing with her dad and she has been off work due to pain on her shoulder and she due back to work this coming Monday so I won’t see her for a while. I am someone who won’t just turn up either.
I’m getting to the point where I’m sick of this behaviour as it’s always her way and I have reached the point of what’s the point and what’s the point of saying anything because it changes nothing as she only sees her side .
She’s lived with her dad all her life and due to the upbringing she has as a Jehovah witness they rarely mixed with people. Her dad well the man I struggle with but I keep my cool. I bought a fridge of food in as it’s wrong to eat other peoples and I will cook for me and my gf. Now he comes in from being out shopping let’s it be known he isn’t happy with my buying food and takes his trolley into the bedroom which my gf questioned and he gives off stinking vibes and moans even when I do cook claiming he can’t stand the smell of food cooking “I’m a vegetarian “. I have just reached a point as my life like this can’t go on and I can’t see it changing but she always make my feelings feel as though I’m being foolish with how I think. I’m just at a loss.
We were meant to be cohabiting in a motorhome but she said let’s put it on hold and she continues to raise this and tells me that I could also buy a motor home and have our separate places if we needed space, I have point blank refused and told her I will never share a home with her that things will never change , I just want more than this from my relationship as I made a huge sacrifice already by moving from the NW to be a short drive from her but I’m at that point, when I last saw her she put on this lovely top her mum bought her and she looked really nice as she’s a gir with the looks with everything , I felt nothing at all and she’s there with this huge smile on her face.
Once in the time I was there it’s evening time and I sit in the kitchen reading and she’s in her room organising it and I always give her that space when I’m there, she comes in puts her arms around me and tells me she lives me “oh I love you as your not one of those woman who wants us to travel abroad or do this and that and you accept me when most wouldn’t “ but I want to travel I want to experience life and now I feel as though this is some kind of manipulation.