How do you stop being in love with a straight person?

Not a lot to go by but if this person is straight then it’s a risk isn’t if you say anything as it could damage your friendship and open a whole can of worms. Do they know that your Bi and has there been any sign at all that he likes you?

Hi there Joeyj81,

Thanks for your post and welcome to the forums.

What you're going through is really common experience that I know that I and many other LGBTQ+ people have had. In the past I've definitely had crushes on people who are straight, or at least I've assumed that they are. You're in good company. It can be quite confusing to know how to handle the situation, especially when you're beginning to develop feelings for the other person and you don't feel comfortable talking about it: distancing without giving the other person a reason as to why is tough.

The most important thing is that you do what is best for your wellbeing and something that is comfortable for you. You've mentioned that you're recently out, so I'm guessing you're navigating that experience right now, and you know your relationship with your friend, so maybe it's worth taking your time to decide what the best resolution may be.

I've always found talking with a trusted friend or someone's opinion who I value can be a really valuable practice when I'm faced when I'm unsure what I should do. If you have someone like that in your life maybe it's worth talking with them about it?

Alternatively, you can always talk to a member of the LGBTQ+ community about it using one of the support services out there. Switchboard is an LGBTQ+ helpline staffed by trained queer volunteers, and I'm sure they'd gladly talk about your situation with you. You can call them 10am-10pm on 0300 330 0630, or via webchat here switchboard.lgbt/ or email chris@switchboard.lgbt.

Whatever happens, things can and do work out for the best in lots of these kinds of situations. Try to treat yourself with kindness. If you'd like any more information then please post again, and we always love and update when people let us know how they're getting on.

Justin