Post by isabella069 on Dec 11, 2021 8:10:59 GMT
Hello all,
I have a question that has been bothering me for a few years now, but I never really knew how to ask it and especially to whom.
A little bit about my background:
I was in a relationship with a man for the past 8 years, but he ended it in June of this year. About 4 years into the relationship we opened it up to have sex with others, which I did, but only with other men. But it was around that time that I first realized (like really for myself, I think deep down I knew it much longer but never allowed my thoughts and feelings) that I was bisexual. But I never had anything with a woman beyond kissing because honestly, I was just afraid of doing something wrong.
Also, I was extremely scared to tell anyone because I was afraid something would change between me and especially my girlfriends. But it wasn't until this year when he broke up with me that I decided to come out and everyone has been so supportive that it still brings me to tears 🥲 So I feel kind of free to finally live the real me, because I am proud of who I am and I just want to be me 😊
My question now is: how do I explore this "new" part of me at age 26? Every time I meet a beautiful woman I feel like a 13 year old girl who doesn't know how to talk anymore, so I just shut down and do nothing, even though I would really like to do more. I know confidence is the most attractive thing, but I just don't see myself that way when it comes to women, and I just don't know what to do. Should I just be honest and say that I've never had any experience with a woman? But then I'm afraid of scaring them off because they'll immediately think that I'm just "going through a phase" and will probably go back to a man anyway. I even feel stupid for asking this, but I just don't know who I could talk to about it.... I'm just so much more attracted to women than men, but since I'm so insecure, I don't do anything. And I know how to get a man I like, so it is just easier for me, but not very satisfying....
I don't know if you guys can understand what I'm trying to say but I would really appreciate any help, advice or thoughts 💕.
Thank you and lots of love 🥰
I have a question that has been bothering me for a few years now, but I never really knew how to ask it and especially to whom.
A little bit about my background:
I was in a relationship with a man for the past 8 years, but he ended it in June of this year. About 4 years into the relationship we opened it up to have sex with others, which I did, but only with other men. But it was around that time that I first realized (like really for myself, I think deep down I knew it much longer but never allowed my thoughts and feelings) that I was bisexual. But I never had anything with a woman beyond kissing because honestly, I was just afraid of doing something wrong.
Also, I was extremely scared to tell anyone because I was afraid something would change between me and especially my girlfriends. But it wasn't until this year when he broke up with me that I decided to come out and everyone has been so supportive that it still brings me to tears 🥲 So I feel kind of free to finally live the real me, because I am proud of who I am and I just want to be me 😊
My question now is: how do I explore this "new" part of me at age 26? Every time I meet a beautiful woman I feel like a 13 year old girl who doesn't know how to talk anymore, so I just shut down and do nothing, even though I would really like to do more. I know confidence is the most attractive thing, but I just don't see myself that way when it comes to women, and I just don't know what to do. Should I just be honest and say that I've never had any experience with a woman? But then I'm afraid of scaring them off because they'll immediately think that I'm just "going through a phase" and will probably go back to a man anyway. I even feel stupid for asking this, but I just don't know who I could talk to about it.... I'm just so much more attracted to women than men, but since I'm so insecure, I don't do anything. And I know how to get a man I like, so it is just easier for me, but not very satisfying....
I don't know if you guys can understand what I'm trying to say but I would really appreciate any help, advice or thoughts 💕.
Thank you and lots of love 🥰