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Post by anomalous on Feb 28, 2022 22:41:30 GMT
I dont know what I am. I've always wanted to cross dress and I do it on and off but recently I've wanted to do it more often and for longer periods of time. I want to shave body hair and do make up but because I work in engineering it's quite lads lads lads so theyd notice if I had hair missing and I live in a small town so I cant go out in public. I just feel trapped and I might not be trans but because I cant try it all I wont know and I know through trying to figure our my sexuality (I'm pan) I just dated more women because it was easier. I need to accept myself for who I am but it's hard to figure out what that is...
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Post by Rasher on Mar 3, 2022 12:41:46 GMT
Hi anomalous. Welcome to the forums. That is an awkward situation to be in. I'm originally from a small town so I totally get it. Everyone knows everyone and if one person notices they all will. Many in your situation will begin to play with gender in the comfort of their own home as it's a safe environment. But it sounds like you want to step this up a bit. There are some groups online for people who have similar issue to yourself. Have you checked out the likes of genderedintelligence.co.uk. They have some active online groups or they can put in contact with others who have the same experiences as yourself. I highly recommend you get in contact with them. On the practical side. I have some friends who have the same issue. They understands the risks but they gradually introduced that side of themselves over a long period of time. They didn't work in a 'lads, lads, lads' environment but it was in retail and it can be difficult there too. Many of them will book two weeks holidays in places with a big LGBTQ+ population and use that time to explore that side of their lives. I don't know if that's something you could explore too. I guess the main thing I want you to know is that what you are trying to explore is absolutely 100% normal. It's society that's the issue here. So I don't think you should stop because of what others think but you should do it as safe as you can and try and build a support network online with others similar to yourself if you can. Let me know if Gender Intelligence points you in the right direction otherwise we'll reach out and see what else is around for you. |
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