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Post by katie on Mar 6, 2022 20:10:28 GMT
I am a 34 years old and married to a man. All my life I have been attracted to women as well as men, but I have only recently begun to acknowledge this and accept it. Since I began to admit my feelings, it is as if a flood gate has opened and I am being flooded with thoughts and fantasies about women, and all the emotions that come with that. I love my husband, and want to be faithful to him…but the desire to explore this new part of my identity is intense.
Has anyone else experienced this? Thank you 🙂
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Post by Sunflower on Mar 8, 2022 15:51:13 GMT
Hi Katie,
Thank you for reaching out. Admitting how you feel is a huge first step, so first of all, take a moment to celebrate that! Your feelings are completely valid and it is totally normal to be experiencing many emotions that come with this self-discovery. Opening yourself up to these feelings can be a lot to process. As you said, you have been attracted to women, as well as men, your whole life, so this idea of a floodgate being opened is actually very common if you have suppressed that part of yourself for a long time. That intense desire you speak of is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact, it can be very exciting! Everything you have described is very much relatable for both myself, and I would assume many people when they first start to embrace their sexuality.
Have you discussed these feelings with your partner? If you want to and feel comfortable doing so, this might be beneficial to maintain honest and healthy communication in your relationship. I know it can be really difficult to open up, we are here to support you in any way we can.
Exploring your identity can be a beautiful journey! It might indeed be helpful to hear the experiences of other people who are or have been in similar situations. LGBT Foundation have a page full of Coming Out stories showcasing how everybody’s story is unique to them.
If you need someone to talk through these feelings with, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Switchboard has a fantastic support line open from 10am to 10pm on 0300 330 0630. There is also a Web chat if this feels more accessible.
LGBT Foundation is also available to talk about whatever you need from Monday-Friday 10am to 6pm on 0345 330 3030
With kindness,
River
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Post by katie on Mar 8, 2022 16:06:04 GMT
Thank you very much. It’s nice to know this is ‘normal’! 🙂
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Post by Rasher on Mar 8, 2022 17:10:18 GMT
It's very much normal and you've nothing to be ashamed about. Exploring this side of your sexuality is a great step forward. Good luck on your journey.
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