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Apr 3, 2022 15:05:36 GMT
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Post by andy52 on Apr 3, 2022 15:05:36 GMT
I have no idea where I could advice about this. I have fallen for a lad in a local shop in a big way. I think he's absolutely gorgeous. I consider myself as straight. I'm 52 and I think he's a lot younger than me. I'm not fighting my feelings. I even told him today I thought he was gorgeous. He gave me a sincere smile and said thank you. I want to ask him out. Should I just go for it? He is definitely gay. I knew first moment I saw saw him I felt something. Any advice for me?
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Apr 5, 2022 10:02:51 GMT
Post by Sunflower on Apr 5, 2022 10:02:51 GMT
Hi Andy,
Thank you for reaching out and for sharing your experience.
Having a crush on someone can be really exciting, the fluttering feelings when you see them or not being able to stop smiling after your interactions. Your feelings are valid and I commend you for not fighting them! Sexuality is fluid and we don't always have to label it. Perhaps this crush has provided an opportunity to explore these feelings more. Many relationships have significant age gaps, it's more about the connection between two people. It's just important to be mindful that for initial interactions, it might play a role in the dynamics.
It can be hard to read whether people are interested in us romantically or sexually. His reaction to your lovely compliment could be flirtatious or it could just be appreciating being called gorgeous. It can be intimidating to ask someone out as there is always the possibility of rejection, however you won't know until you try! Just be sure to be respectful of their response.
If you don't feel up to asking them out, that's okay too. Sometimes it can be nice to stay in that crush zone and enjoy those feelings whenever you go to the local shop.
If you want to talk with someone more about these feelings, there are some places to go to for support or a friendly chat.
Switchboard has a fantastic support line open from 10am to 10pm on 0300 330 0630. There is also a Web chat if this feels more accessible.
LGBT Foundation is also available to talk about whatever you need from Monday-Friday 10am to 6pm on 0345 330 3030
With kindness,
River
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Apr 5, 2022 20:03:28 GMT
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Post by andy52 on Apr 5, 2022 20:03:28 GMT
Thank you for your reply.
Andy
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Apr 23, 2022 13:56:13 GMT
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Post by andy52 on Apr 23, 2022 13:56:13 GMT
Well I made the move to ask him out and left him my mobile number.
Will wait now.
Andy xx
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Apr 23, 2022 14:45:25 GMT
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Post by katie on Apr 23, 2022 14:45:25 GMT
Well done 🙂 That was really brave. Wishing you luck xx
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Jun 20, 2022 7:42:25 GMT
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Post by andy52 on Jun 20, 2022 7:42:25 GMT
Well done 🙂 That was really brave. Wishing you luck xx Thanks Katie. The lad wasn't interested. My only advice to you is just to go for it. You only live once. I think you sound like me. Always thinking the worst will happen. If your husband loves you he'll be hurt but understand your feelings as well. Andy xx
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Jun 20, 2022 21:07:34 GMT
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Post by katie on Jun 20, 2022 21:07:34 GMT
Ahh, I’m sorry it didn’t work out. There’s always next time 🙂
Thank you, I really appreciate the support. It was nice to hear that today. Katie x
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