Do I leave my GF for someone else?

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out.

Firstly, it's okay to be unsure about how you feel. Understanding your feelings can be tricky, especially when you are in a relationship.

It is quite common for bisexual people to question their feelings about dating people of the opposite sex when society tells us this might be more accepted by others. Or sometimes we find ourselves wondering what it would be like to be with someone of a different gender to the person we are with. This is completely natural and there is no shame in being curious. Whatever the case, who you are in a relationship with does not determine your sexuality or make you less bisexual in any way.

When it comes to sexual attraction, some people feel it with certain people, but not with others. This might be because of gender or it might be you simply don't feel it with that particular person. Either way, feelings can change all the time, even in a relationship. Whether it is sexual, romantic or emotional attraction, they are all prone to fluctuate.

It is quite expected to feel attracted to something that is different when you have been comfortable in a relationship for a long time. This doesn't necessarily indicate that your sexuality has changed, but it is okay if it has. It is hard to know what to do when you love and care for someone, but feel that there is something missing. Whatever decision you make, remember that what is most important is honouring your feelings and trying to stay true to what feels right.

If you need someone to talk to, here are some amazing support services.

Switchboard LGBT has a fantastic support line open from 10am to 10pm on 0300 330 0630. There is also a Web chat if this feels more accessible.

LGBT Foundation is also available to talk about whatever you need from Monday-Friday 10am to 6pm on 0345 330 3030

With kindness,

Sunflower