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Post by Ashleigh on Apr 24, 2022 14:25:45 GMT
I'm only just beginning to understand myself better i don't like to label things but it has helped me come to terms with who I am which at this moment i identify as a heteroromantic bisexual, I have experienced sexual desire for women since I discovered what sex was. However I can not see myself romantically dating any women. I have never has a sexual encounter with another girl and I do want to. I just broke it off with my current boyfriend so that I could go and see if its more than just sexual feelings. I didn't want to date him whilst I was confused and until i know myself at least a little bit better. I'm not sure if i should try setting up dates with girls and seeing how it goes as of course there is no commitment. I want to be open and honest with the girl that I go on a date with but i don't want them to feel used or as if they are an experiment. I have told my ex there could be a chance of getting back together and he was open to me sleeping with women whilst in the relationship. I love him and he loves me but is it okay that i have taken this break away? I think that after a journey of my self discovery I want to set up a date for me and him to go on and see if there still is a romantic connection still there and if I feel differently let go and move on. I have told him I don't want him to wait for me as I don't know how long this will take me, but he is reluctant to that. Anyway just wondering if anyone had any advice or have been in a similar situation?
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Post by Sunflower on Apr 25, 2022 7:52:22 GMT
Hello there, Thank you for reaching out. Admitting how you feel is a huge first step, so first of all, take a moment to celebrate that! Understanding those feelings can be tricky, especially when you have not yet had a sexual encounter with a woman. Just remember that whatever you are feeling is valid and it is totally normal to be experiencing many emotions that come with this self-discovery. Exploring sexual feelings with women can be very exciting! It is great that you have acknowledged that it is important no one feels that they are being used in some way. Being open and honest with the women that you go on dates with is a great way to practise healthy communication. This way they can choose to move forward or not depending if it is something they are comfortable with. Many people date casually and simply want to share sexual experiences with different people. It completely depends on the individual and what their needs are. Be clear about what you want and where you are at on your journey and enjoy! It is really brave of you to make the decision to step away from a relationship whilst you figure these feelings out. If your ex believes there is a chance of you getting back together, he might be holding onto that. It might be worth clarifying with yourself and him if this is a break or a break-up. Either way, the key is maintaining that honest communication. This way you can thoroughly enjoy this journey of self-discovery without worrying too much about someone else's feelings. It is hard to know what to do when you love and care for someone, but feel confused about what you want. Whatever decision you make, remember that what is most important is honouring your feelings and trying to stay true to what feels right. If you need someone to talk to, here are some amazing support services. Switchboard LGBT has a fantastic support line open from 10am to 10pm on 0300 330 0630. There is also a Web chat if this feels more accessible. LGBT Foundation is also available to talk about whatever you need from Monday-Friday 10am to 6pm on 0345 330 3030 With kindness, Sunflower |
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Post by ashleigh191201 on Apr 25, 2022 17:53:40 GMT
just spoke to him we are going to go on a date in a couple weeks see if there is anything to rekindle and from there either go our separate ways or be together as I don't want his wasting his time waiting around. But I will be very open to the idea of moving on as decide what is truly best for me this advice has helped a lot so thank you so much
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