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Post by joeyj81 on May 26, 2022 20:25:22 GMT
Hi,
I’ve posted before about coming out as bisexual lately. But I don’t know if I’m struggling to deal with the fact I’ve come out as bi or that I’m just regretting that I didn’t do it sooner rather than later and that I’ve missed a big opportunity in my life. I’m 41 now and feel that I left it too late to come out. Too many years of keeping it quiet and being in denial about it all has probably made me feel like this.
Maybe I should of just kept quite about it. Maybe I made a mistake .
It’s making me feel very low. ☹️
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Post by simonsays on May 27, 2022 11:03:28 GMT
I think what you're feeling is quite common for people at all ages. People who come out in their 20s think they missed out on their teens, people in there 30s think they missed out on their 20s and it goes on. So you very much are not alone. I came out later than I wanted to and felt the same way. I spent about 3-4 months feeling bad but then I realised I'm wasting more time and got on with it. I think it's fine to feel the way you do but don't feel too bad. 41 isn't old. Once you let it settle in get on with exploring that side of you and enjoy who you were meant to be.
Simon
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Post by thatbiguy on Jul 27, 2022 15:35:16 GMT
Hi, I’ve posted before about coming out as bisexual lately. But I don’t know if I’m struggling to deal with the fact I’ve come out as bi or that I’m just regretting that I didn’t do it sooner rather than later and that I’ve missed a big opportunity in my life. I’m 41 now and feel that I left it too late to come out. Too many years of keeping it quiet and being in denial about it all has probably made me feel like this. Maybe I should of just kept quite about it. Maybe I made a mistake . It’s making me feel very low. ☹️ Hi Joey, I’m in a very similar situation but for me it’s because I am married and I don’t want to risk hurting my wife and family by exploring what I feel I have missed out on. If I was single and I came to this realisation, I’m in my early 40’s too, I think I’d be less worried about the experiences I’d missed and focus on the experiences I could now have. But short of my wife being comfortable with an open marriage (not something I’m looking for tbh) or open to 3somes I don’t see any possibility of experiencing what I’ve missed out on. One thing I will say though is no matter how difficult it may be I don’t think being honest and true to yourself is a mistake. |
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