Christian, Gay and Running Away

Hi uk,

I’m so pleased you found this forum too! Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through.

I’m so sorry to hear about what you’ve been dealing with. It sounds like it’s been a lot.

I noticed you said that it was a great but secret relationship, with his parents thinking you were just housemates and asking about girls. Before he even left your home, this must have been quite tough to deal with. It is so hard to have to suppress who you are and who you love.

I’m so sorry to hear about him running away and not being able to be in a relationship anymore. I can only imagine how heartbreaking this must have been for you.

You mentioned him being depressed and also suicidal at one point. I can see how this would make you worry even more and consider waiting around to help him. I can’t tell you which decision to make regarding moving on or trying to help him through it, but I do want to remind you to take care of yourself, too. It can be tempting to get fully involved in someone else’s internal struggle and start neglecting our own needs. What do YOU need to do to get through this difficult time?

I hear that you really miss him. I’ve been through some tough breakups, so I really really get this, and I’m sorry. I know it’s so hard, and I hope that it gets better. Feel free to reach back out if you need further support, or check out one of these other resources:

If you ever want to talk to call or chat with someone that’s LGBTQ+ for support or to help you talk things out, switchboard is a great resource. You can call them on 0300 330 0630 or use their website: switchboard.lgbt/

Samaritans is also available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year by calling 116 123. They are a fantastic resource to talk about what you’re going through. 

In case he does reach back out, I’d also suggest taking a look at our resource on Helping someone who is feeling suicidal

Take care of yourself, and know that it does get better. Sending some love and care your way,
Morejoy