How to be less conciecious?

Hi rdouga

Congrats on coming out, I am pleased you feel confident about doing so and that you express yourself how you want to as well. I know how you feel about attention, I am femme looking but have a beard and use a walking stick. I sometimes think people stare, but have mostly gotten used to it. You will get used to any reactions, and remember lots of people look people they think we look interesting. We also have no idea who we are reaching, possibly making them feel better about being different.

You can try taking things step by step (like maybe a very bright and fun wheelchair with more laid back clothes), bringing friends, and looking to see how other alternative looking people are treated, are you treated any different? I don't know where you live but you can also try going to big cities and queer spaces, and you will blend in easier.

I know we didn't ask to be role models or challenge ableist systems, but I think inherently we will and when we have the energy/motivation, embrace it and feel proud. We also have the right to just be and left to our day to day lives.

If you would like to meet people on Zoom we have groups you can see our events HERE

All the best

Avo