Femmephobia on the scene
Sept 26, 2019 13:45:16 GMT
Post by Piltover on Sept 26, 2019 13:45:16 GMT
Hello OutLifers,
It's time for another Topic of the Week! This week we're talking femmephobia on the scene. This piece from Dazed & Confused last year highlighted this issue that many people have experienced within the LGBTQ+ community.
www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/41287/1/femmephobia-xxl-gay-clubs-door-policy?amp=1&__twitter_impression=true&fbclid=IwAR2RcAtKgEHocdPmynp4CCfC3Ene-MgDV0aIMHmryrwpdhjdFRpnRb9sp9g
For all the people for whom that is a TL;DR here are a few choice quotations:
"As homosexual men were ‘emasculated’ in mainstream media, gay men began to acculturate hypermasculinity as a way to place themselves on par with straight masculinity. It set out to prove that a gay man could be as much of a man, if not manlier than his hetero counterpart. But along the way, it’s gained a kind of toxic momentum – which is unsurprising, given that the aim of the game was to assimilate with straight culture, rather than be liberated from it."
"These values are reified in sexual and social hierarchies that dictate access to spaces, resources, kinship, and ultimately safety. I have replayed those moments outside XXL that night in my head over and over again, trying to understand why I compromised with the bouncer. I am ashamed that I did not tell him to go fuck himself; that I didn't walk away."
"These nightclubs and social spaces are cultural proxy battles, by which we tell people who should show up and who should not, who will be remembered and who will not, who is welcome and who is not — who ultimately matters in our lives and our spaces."
Discuss! And please remember: be kind, be civil, and be respectful.
It's time for another Topic of the Week! This week we're talking femmephobia on the scene. This piece from Dazed & Confused last year highlighted this issue that many people have experienced within the LGBTQ+ community.
www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/41287/1/femmephobia-xxl-gay-clubs-door-policy?amp=1&__twitter_impression=true&fbclid=IwAR2RcAtKgEHocdPmynp4CCfC3Ene-MgDV0aIMHmryrwpdhjdFRpnRb9sp9g
For all the people for whom that is a TL;DR here are a few choice quotations:
"As homosexual men were ‘emasculated’ in mainstream media, gay men began to acculturate hypermasculinity as a way to place themselves on par with straight masculinity. It set out to prove that a gay man could be as much of a man, if not manlier than his hetero counterpart. But along the way, it’s gained a kind of toxic momentum – which is unsurprising, given that the aim of the game was to assimilate with straight culture, rather than be liberated from it."
"These values are reified in sexual and social hierarchies that dictate access to spaces, resources, kinship, and ultimately safety. I have replayed those moments outside XXL that night in my head over and over again, trying to understand why I compromised with the bouncer. I am ashamed that I did not tell him to go fuck himself; that I didn't walk away."
"These nightclubs and social spaces are cultural proxy battles, by which we tell people who should show up and who should not, who will be remembered and who will not, who is welcome and who is not — who ultimately matters in our lives and our spaces."
Discuss! And please remember: be kind, be civil, and be respectful.
