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Post by charjaiinwonderland on Jul 3, 2023 19:29:38 GMT
Hey
So I have an appointment tomorrow to hopefully get referred to the gic. I literally just wanted to check in with my mum to see how she felt about what I eventually want and need done and she wasn't mean or anything, just her response really made me uncomfortable. And I love my mum and I know she loves me but I just wish she understood more or at least would listen and accept when I try to explain things to do with being lgbtqia+ and trans.
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Post by avocado on Jul 5, 2023 15:33:57 GMT
Hi Char This appointment would have happened now, how did it go? I am sorry your mum is not supportive. It's good that she's not actively against your actions but I think it's totally valid to look for understanding and acceptance. It can sometimes take a while, due to people not knowing or wanting to learn, struggling with change, or finding their own beliefs challenged. You can show her some resources you like or ask for a direct conversation about your gender or try giving her space. You know your mum best so you are the best person to judge how to approach this. When I first came out I would get so annoyed when people said 'give it time'. I was ready, I was out and happy and trans and wanting to be treated the right way and called the right thing. But those annoying people were a bit right, with patience those around me caught up and started to understand. You might like these to show her - hrc.org/resources/transgender-children-and-youth-understanding-the-basics
mermaidsuk.org.uk/support-videos/ (might be a bit young for you but worth knowing about) youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/gender-identity/
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Post by Saathi on Jul 6, 2023 15:50:12 GMT
This is a fabulous video :-)
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Post by charjaiinwonderland on Jul 7, 2023 13:10:38 GMT
Hi Char This appointment would have happened now, how did it go? I am sorry your mum is not supportive. It's good that she's not actively against your actions but I think it's totally valid to look for understanding and acceptance. It can sometimes take a while, due to people not knowing or wanting to learn, struggling with change, or finding their own beliefs challenged. You can show her some resources you like or ask for a direct conversation about your gender or try giving her space. You know your mum best so you are the best person to judge how to approach this. When I first came out I would get so annoyed when people said 'give it time'. I was ready, I was out and happy and trans and wanting to be treated the right way and called the right thing. But those annoying people were a bit right, with patience those around me caught up and started to understand. You might like these to show her - hrc.org/resources/transgender-children-and-youth-understanding-the-basics
mermaidsuk.org.uk/support-videos/ (might be a bit young for you but worth knowing about) youngminds.org.uk/parent/parents-a-z-mental-health-guide/gender-identity/
Hey. Thank you so much. My mum doesn't want any more information about things though but I might send her the link to one of the videos. Thank you so much again!! Also my appointment, it was actually really quick and simple... Annoying and kind of hypocriticaly they deadnamed me throughout but I coped and yep as of today (I got a text from my drs surgery early afternoon), I am officially referred to the gic. Yh |
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Post by charjaiinwonderland on Jul 7, 2023 13:14:26 GMT
And I am glad people came round to you coming out, I hope my parents will do the same. I just want my mum to be there for LGBTQIA+ stuff as well as other things, if that makes sense. Anyways thanks again.  Char Jai |
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Post by avocado on Jul 10, 2023 13:24:13 GMT
No worries and congrats and being referred. For now, it sounds like it's her loss that she won't share this with you. I hope it changes.
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Post by charjaiinwonderland on Jul 24, 2023 14:09:18 GMT
No worries and congrats and being referred. For now, it sounds like it's her loss that she won't share this with you. I hope it changes. Aw thank you so much. Yeah I guess... Thank you, I hope it changes too. |
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