learned i have been dealing with acts of homophobia for 15yr

Hey there and thanks for your post. Sounds like you are having a tough time because people are making assumptions about you. Any sort of phobia is not a nice experience to have - sorry this is happening to you. It's worth perhaps looking at spaces where this does not happen whether this is online or in physical spaces.

The reverse used to happen to me many years ago as a gay man (still does occasionally by others, new friends and relatives) but people assumed I was 'straight' and mostly in gay bars and it was tiring and disappointing. These micro aggressions were not healthy for me so I moved to a mental space where I realised I need to cultivate my authentic self and not allow myself to be invalidated because of someone's stereotype but this took time. What worked for me was talking with people, attending groups, online chat and realising I am enough and I am loved.

I agree with you when we experiencing this stereotyping it can affect our social mobility and lead to further isolation.

Perhaps look into self-care and what works for you that makes you feel less frustrated. birminghammind.org/what-we-do/helpline/self-care/

Hope the above helps and do stay in touch and wishing you a healthier week.